Show PROBLEM OF ENGAGED BOY TO LEARN SELF 1 CONTROL AND USE IT f Friend Finds Gossip Dogging Steps Legends Concerning i Turquoise as Gift of Love Many and Ancient f v Finger Bowl il By BETTY BLAIR BLAm If outward abstention causes inner conflict the trouble w may lie in the spirit Civilized beings must forego many impulses i for lor example the desire to steal things we ardently crave We refrain from doing things and yet burn with hunger to do them Wisdom suggests that the hurt comes from foregoing only heartedly half and in not enlisting the Whole of self-control self to manage the problem Dear Miss Blair I am engaged to a girl whom I love very much but when I am with her I want to express my mylove love and then my y r passion almost gets S be beyond ond control I alwa always S 'S feel beastly afterward and we hove have talked matters over with each S other oilier but have not yet found a solution S We have thought thoughtS S 1 If we stopped kissing kiss kiss- f M 1 ing each other this S would help an and it itS but since S S did some has utterly failed We will not be getting married ma for about two years If It you ou were In my place what would you do and how howS S would you ou go about it s s s. o. o s. s S The only safe solution to a problem Cf Of this kind is that you OU st stop p seeing each other alone Follow the crowds and nd use up your our energies in p physical si l activities such as dancing hiking tennis and golf When the weather Is 15 Inclement try indoor handball table tennis or parlor croquet A large part of your our problem Is mental You just think you ou cant can't exercise ex cx self control and so long as the doubt exists it will be master Set anew o a new standard of control for for your thoughts and your actions will take uke care of themselves themselves- Plan with your our fiancee a course of action that will Include reading courses in the subjects you like best besL Include in these a number of books beaks bookson on psychology and two very valuable books for young oung p people contemplating ing marriage Modern Youth and Marriage by Henry Neumann and Sex and Youth by Eddy GOSSIP THREATENS FRIENDSHIP Dear Miss Blair I have a friend who Is working t with me and who asks me to go goto goto goto to his home at any convenient time One day when I called on my day of off I found that his wife and son were there alone so made my visit ver very brief But when I went home I was criticized criticized criticized very severely as If I had done something wrong by going there What am I to do Shall I stop stopS S going goin to my ray friends friend's house I hate to break our friendship asI as asI asI I treat him as a brother And also alco I hate to think that he will think I am om neglecting Tny my friendship friendship friend friend- ship to his family if I stay awa away Thank you ou for your help V M. M t P. P The Ibe evil that exists In other people peoples people's peo pea ples es e's minds may through their criticism cism cisin and gossip cast reflections on your friends friend's wife and do more harm than your visits could do good Hereafter Hereafter Hereafter Here Here- after time your visits visit to your friends friend's home when he is h there or 01 at other times only when asked to go by your friend with specific messages from I him to his family when he himself himsel Is h on duty and unable to go As a arule a rule I think one should scorn gos- gos but when reflection is cast on the character of another through your actions you must give heed DECEMBER GE GEM I IDear Dear Miss Mis Blair The last wt day of December is h S the birthday of the girl I have haveS been going with for nine months We are arc not engaged to be married mar mar- tied ned but we are sure we love each other and when we know there are prospects fo foj marriage we will become for formally en- en Caged ged Since the turquoise is the December December De De- cember stone I have bought her hersome hersome some IOme costume jewelry set with turquoise The stones tones are the color of her eyes ees I would like Uke to know whether there are any legends connected the use of cf the turquoise I like to tell things of this sort to her Thank you ou D F. F pI The ancients believed a turquoise of f great value might be found at the end of ot the rainbow Another r belief common among North American In was Wa that a 8 turquoise attached to a gun or bow would cause bullet or arrow to g go straight to j its mark in time Iliac In became symbolical of straightness and fairness in all matters matters mat mat- and in the seventeenth century nearly every gentleman in Europe wore a turquoise a. a as Indicative of his high sense of honor An acute sympathy between the turquoise and arid its ILs wearer was also supposed to exist During the middle ages it was thought that the stone slone would divert to I Itself on Itself on much the same Ame fame principle as the lightning rod rod rod- the consequences of any ill Iii fortune suffered by its ILs wearer If one wearIng wear wear- ing It languished in health it was be be- the turquoise faded Yet when the me stone slone was wo worn by a magnetic person it 11 revived in color In many popular beliefs a as widespread as this thI there is usually some grain of truth and it fc is possible that the turquoise el which is the least hard of any any- of the precious stones is affected by the electricity of the human body However It be the turquoise Is al al- way considered as an emblem of Letters questions and requests requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed addressed addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS B BET BETTY E T T Y x BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE L LA A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append ap ap- ap pend the right name and ad address dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will nut not appear In print Questions involving Involving in in- advertising Information cannot annot be answered prosperity a Q memento of love and is isone isone Isone one of the few gems still worn the world over as a good luck talisman NOTE TO GRACE Will you come In to see zee me retard regard lag ng the first part past of ot your problem and call me on the telephone retard regard af Ing the second part Neither may be answered through the column USE OF FINGER BOWL Deer Dear Miss Blair I am going to a New Years Year's dinner dance and I recall distinctly distinctly dis dI- dis- dis one I went to last year when finger bowls were were brought In almost in the middle of ot the meal then removed and the remaining remaining remaining re re- re- re courses served At the very end again finger bowls were brought in I suppose my ray dumbness dumbness dumbness dumb dumb- ness was very noticeable as I Imade Imade Imade made some rome wisecrack about their first appearance Please set et me right Are finger bowls supposed supposed supposed sup sup- posed to be brought in when the meal is half over Its It's a wonder I didn't drink mine FROM THE STICKS After a finger food has been served finger bowls are brought in when the occasion is a formal one They are again placed before guests at the finIsh fin fin- ish of the meal The proper use of ot the finger bowl is to insert the tips of ot the fingers Into the water one hand at ot a time If there Is any fruit juice or particles of food on the fingers dabble them lightly In the tho water but be sure to do so inconspicuously If it is h necessary touch the lips Ups lightly with the moist finger tips Then dry the hands hand on the napkin which you hold below the surface a athe of the table Last place the napkin a athe at atthe atthe the left beside the finger bowl J Jf 1 this is after the dinner has haJ been served |