Show r COME LOME TO S' S 0 0 HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN HA VENi VEN With th DEITY BETTY BLAIR Affairs of ot the tho heart beart and nd kindred problems ONLY will bo discussed In thUs Mils department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only ony ono of ot the paper It is Lii necessary that you rou append the tho right namo name and address but tb these o will bo held hed In n strict confidence confidence- and ond will wUl by no means appear In print Ed Ed TO DEFER ER MARRIAGE l Dear Dur Miss Blair I am in a predicament that I dont don't kno know bow how many fellows Cello have been in but it Jt seems rather serious to me I Iam Ian am an enraged engaged to a girl Irl but Im I'm no not r ready ad for Cor marriage yet She wants want t to tobe tobe be married immediately but hut I dont don't agree with her I think a great eat deal of oC this girl Irl and she seems to think a alot alot lot Jot of oC me consequently I wouldn't wouldn hurt hart her feelings for Cor an any sum We have been going steady tead for Cor about eight months month and nd for tor some unknown rca rea- son on Im I'm not sure of or my love loc for Cor her There is another girl with ith whom I went some time ago 30 I went to see he her about two weeks ago and then jusa justa Just jus a Do night or two ago and she seems to appreciate m my company compan and md I enjoy being with her also I crave romance and adventure adventure- not a settled down married life Please help mr me ME IE I We think it would be a great reat mistake mistake mistake mis mis- take for or you to be o by bj your into marriage in your present state of or mind Satisfy first your urge for romance rind and adventure adventure en ad ture then you ou will be more apt to appreciate the splendid settling seWing down qualities S 'S of the girl to whom you rou are engaged Most lost people have to enjoy enjo the superficial thrills before the they can b by comparison appreciate the real Yours is an honest doubt To marr marry while such a doubt dominates your thoughts would not only be a great injustice to yourself but to the young oun lady Jady who has doubtless given you the finest love and the most romantic of oC which she will vilI ever be capable So long as you arc not In a position mentally mentally men men- tally physically or spiritually to appreciate appreciate ap ap- ap- ap predate this love nor to give c her the same kind of or love in return nothing but unhappiness could come of the union But we advise se you to be strictly honest with your Jour fiancee She must be a girl of intelligence or you would not have ha taken chances on your our future future fu fu- fu- fu ture turc happiness by en engaging aging yourself to her Give her the opportunity to use her intelligence to regulate her own life lite with respect to the change she finds in you Tell her of your calls on the other girl and of your our reaction reaction re re- re action to these calls call In addition we advise In all aU your seeking for romance and md adventure remember this that you OU do not lessen lessen less less- en your ability to make decisions It ItIs Itis Itis is possible for tor one to flit from one romance romance ro 10 ro- ro mance to another from one advert thrill to another until ones one's sense of or values v is Lc entirely warped until ones one's own fineness is so far tar obliterated ob by indulgence in the superficialities super super- of oC life me that one cannot detect detect de de- de- de teet the fineness in another and that thai one is entirely unable therefore to tomake tomake tomake make right decisions for tor oneself in matters so momentous ns Os marriage I INDULGED I IV PETTING Dear Miss lIss Blair I have ha been going oln with X for Cor more than a year and started steady company com corn pany party with him three months ago 0 Not so 50 Ion long ago I was dared to slut him and go out with Y X saw us to together er cr and called on another girl This was m my tau fault It of or course but I really think what followed had nothing to do with m my stuffing him lie He is easU easily In In- and soon indulged ed in common common com mon petting with tho the rest of the thc crowd He lie told mc me all ail about it and promised he wouldn't do it again But nut s Miss Blair I dont don't know If IC a Cell fellow ow who had done this once would want wanto to o again Evidently your friends friend's departure from customary conduct troubled his conscience or he would not have made confessions of having petted with the he girls girl in the crowd nor would he have lave made the promise not to do dp so again Your own action in stuffing sluing him Urn may have had something to do dovith with his becoming careless and ferent toward his own regular conduct con con- duct We know nothing of the boys boy's habit in regard to keeping his promises but hut at least we think he should hould be given a chance His own feelings have condemned him and that hat is always as it should be Who is there here among us who is worthy to sit in n judgment on our friends We contemn con can ourselves when we wc do so CORRESPONDENCE DELAYED Dear Miss 1 Blair There is a boy with whom I have been corresponding but the last Icier Jetter letter let Jet ter er I received ed from him came the W wt k before Christmas He lie wrote s ln saying that hat ho he was Mas coming down for Cor the holi boll lays days ays and for me mc not to write back since since the letter Jetter might pass him on th the wa way vay and I haven't heard from him sin since ince Shall I go 0 on waiting waltin or shall I go gout out ut with other boys bos and let him go SALLY It is usually a good plan to give the theother theother other ther fellow the benefit of the doubt Sail Sally The boy friend may have come down with smallpox for all aU you youl l know now Why not drop him a line and md ind out Were We're not strong for this serene I told old m wait hands doctrine We think hink a good deal of activity should be mixed in with a theory like lkc that O Of f course one shouldn't engage in activities activities ac- ac that work directly against the end nd one hopes to attain but we cant can't think tunk that going out with other girls and nd boys can harm you Ou It might in fact act help you ou to form bigger and beter better better bet- bet ter er ideas as to the kind of friends you rou like best Is it necessary to give one nc friend up entirely because you add dd n new w friends to your our list If so you ou employ a rule not accepted by most young people of today HOSTESS DUTIES Dear Miss lIss Blair Is a hostess responsible for all an the guests at a dance in her home to the extent that she must sec that they all dance ance Thank you OU BABE ABE Yes Babe it is the hostess' hostess duty duly to o see that none of her guests are wallflowers The best way to accomplish accomplish lish this is to make male as sure as possible pos pos- sible ible that every woman guest is pro pro- vided with an escort who ho will be responsible responsible re- re for her dance partners Exra Ex- Ex Extra Extra tra ra men always arc ue welcome at a dance ance CAUTION IN DYEING Dear MI Miss s Blair My Iy hair has been boen dyed once and now I want another kind of dye dyc ap- ap plied Is it necessary to remove all allor of or the old dye before the new is put on Thank you OU HOME DYER Yes Home Dyer a very important tant ant item iteA to remember in dyeing the hair mir is that one sort of dye should not be applied over another sort For example ex ex- ample a mineral dye should not be applied over a vegetable d dye e like henna hen hen- na The he old dye must be removed thoroughly before a new application is made Some sorts of hair must be bleached before they are arc dyed This is especially espe espe- dally true of hair that is gray or is streaked with ith yellow When dark hair I has bas once een bleached it cannot be restored to its former shade without without without with with- out the aid of a dye |