Show p COME IE TO TO- HEARTS HEART'S HA VENi With With lith BETTY BEIlY BLAIR BLAIR Affairs of ot the too heart and kindred problems ONLY will U bo be discussed in this deportment department Letters questions question and requests for tor advIce should bo addressed td to MISS rIss BETTY BETrY BLAIR BLAm HEARTS HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of ot the paper It Is necessary that you oU append the right name namo and address but these theo will be held In strict confidence and will by no means menns appear In Sri print Ed C CAN X tN THEY TilEY BE lIE FRIENDS Dear Miss l Blair Mine Is b a problem that has troubled me Inc a a. great d deal dI al My Iy first husband and I 1 were divorced di and each of us has married happily again I married for love both times but in the first case our temperamental differences made it Impossible for or us to adjust ourselves to each other Ever Every time m my ray husband attacked me verbally for fora or ora a difference of opinion which affected our home lives it made a chasm be us until finally love was dead and life with him became a mere pretense pretense pre pre- tense and a mocker mockery I had one thin thing thin to be thankful for that the union brought no children for if it had Im I'm sure sore my 01 sense of 10 loyalty aUy would have bound me to their best welfare and to a life lIe of ml misery cr with him Although my husband became a n perfect stranger to me while I was still married to him because of the fact tact that he continually imposed his will over o mine in matters great and small which meant either cither an entire loss of my self respect as an Individual In abject slaver slavery to his will or continual continual con con- battles which wore me mc out outi yet et now that we arc separated he wants to be friends Naturally my husband to whom thom I am now married objects to this He Ill argues that If it our differences Were great reat enough to cau cause e a divorce the they should be sufficient to keep us from now bein being friends I have no desire to be friends with my fly first husband I cannot see sec him without poignant memories being re revived re-I re re- re hed of the hideous thing that our lives became together yet et circumstances circumstances circum circum- st stances nees throw us together constantly in the same crowd and I dont don't know how to escape him I lam am sure his present present pres pres- ent wife has no love lo for or me mc and that she has the thc Idea Im I'm trying to vamp my former husband This is far from true Yet let m my disposition is such that I cant can't be openly insulting and because because be be- cause CaDe of this I feel that I am victim My l present husband Is a a. man a-man man of the thc Utmost kindness lIe He would bite his own tongue out rather than be unkind to me mc Ho Ill is generous to a fault lIe He Heis lIeIs lieIs is only mU mildly ry persuasive because of this condition yet ct with his fine delicacy deli dell cacy and sensitiveness eness I know just how much he is disturbed over the fact fad that my former husband seeks me mc out whenever we wc are fn rn a crowd to tal tat kb me and dance with me inc The thing I ha hate about It most is that husband hus bus band number one has openly boasted about the fact that we s-e s can ran be friends even though we arc are divorced Please tell me rae what to do I know I shall have ve to make rv a special effort to do anything an at all For years I allowed myself to be harassed and to have hae every every vestige of or self respect stripped from me mc before I could brin myself to the point of or seeking a di di di- vorce I am a perfect ninny when It comes to actually makin making final decisIons decisions de de- de- de and carrying them across But Buta a little bolstering bolstering- up from you ou will do wonders for me Thank you vou sin pin In TWICE A We Se agree entirely with your second husband that if matters between you ou and your first husband nd demanded a divorce there is little excuse for you and your first husband being friends I cannot see either cither that you need to insult your our f to make him understand this If H he is a man mah of ordinary intelligence he should beable beable be beable able to grasp the complete meaning in a firm clear statement from you that need not have ha the intent no nor wording of 01 an insult You surely did not hesitate to attempt at least tomake to tomake make your own will known even cen though there was no chance for you ou to win in the old days Why should you ou hesitate now to express your mind when you cannot lose and have ever everything every every- thing to gain cain I should not think of jeopardizing my ray present happiness nor inflicting wounds on a husband whose kindness keeps you from knowing the full ex cx- tend of or these wounds If II you cannot bring yourself to tell husband number number num num- ber one in unmistakable terms that friendship between you ou is impossible then I should refrain from going to the places where you will meet him Surely the maintenance of your present happiness is worth that much effort or sacrifice The Thc man who lacked the delicacy to consider your rights as a wife and I copartner need not be treated with such delicacy now that you cannot summon words to be rid of or him as a friend when that friendship threatens to disrupt the happiness of one who treats you ou with every consideration YOU THANK NOTE OTE Dear Miss 1 Blair A boy with whom I used to go sent me mc a a. girt gift in from Germany this year lear car Wo We have not been corresponding Shall I write and thank him for the gift gUt He lie did not write me a letter just sent a card with the present sa sayIng say say- In lug Ing Merry lerr 1 Christmas and signing his name Thanking you VERLA Yes Verla i if you accept the gift you ou must write a you thank note in acknowledgement But to a Q friend so far away we advise that you ou write more than the rather formal note of thanks A friend who remembered to send a gift would doubtless be glad to receive a friendly letter from you ou telling all about the activities of the theold theold theold old crowd But you must govern this act of course by circumstances that now prevail pre I If IL these make it di difficult difficult i. i cult for you to accept the c gift t then return it with a note of explanation LARGE VEINS IN HANDS Dear Miss 1 Blair I have hae a condition which has worried wor wor- ned ried me considerably of late Besides having ha large Inre hands that I dont don't know what to do with the veins In my 01 hands have become ver very large and blue bIDe and embarrass me dreadfully I notice this especially when I am pIa playIng play play- Ill lag Ing cards or sitting at the dinner table I have doubted if It there is ls a real cure but there is always alays a slight chance and I have much faith in your our being able ablo to lead me rue to It WONDERING High blood pressure is almost invariably in invariably variably at the bottom of conspicuously conspicuously veined hands and the treatment is a job for your physician However there are a few simple suggestions you may follow to make the condition less less' conspicuous Try whenever possible not to hold the h hands down When you are arc walking walk walk- ing jag arrange to carry something a substantial purse or a book When sitting do not let the hands hang limp at the sides It is better to let them lie in the lap and occasionally let them toy with your necklace in order to reduce the size of the veins Hold your hands aloft in the privacy of a room before making your our entrance into the dining room or presenting yourself at the card table Superficial help which we do not recommend you to use regularly comes in the form of the following lotion Finest pure white zinc grams fine talc grams pure glycerin gly gly- cerin 70 grams benzoin 20 grams extract 10 cr grams rosewater rosewater rose rosewater water grams carmine 04 grams Generously mop the hands with the lotion and let Jet it become absorbed Into the skin Remove any excess mois mols- ture turc with tissue and dust the hands with powder A thin film of oC flesh flesh- tinted cream applied to the hands ater aftel af a- a ter tel the lotion and just before the powder pow pow- der will make the treatment thoroughly thoroughly thor thor- effective thor thor-I TO EAT ARTICHOKES Dear Miss 1 Blair Please tell teU me what Is the proper wa way to eat cat artichokes Thank you I IJ J Artichokes are nrc always eaten with the fingers A leaf lear at a time is pulled off and the edible dipped in the sauce One eats cats only the fleshy part of the leaf lea When iThen the center is reached the thistle part is scraped va a away with a knife the edges are arc cut and the heart eaten with a fork NOTE OTE TO R E. 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