Show 6 O T TO I HEARTS HEART'S HA VEN YEN i t t t t t t 1 With BETTY BLAIR Affairs Affair of ot the th heart and kindred problems ONLY will win be bo discussed In Ia thIs department Letters questions and requests for tor advice should bo addressed to MISS BETTY BErrY LAIR BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Writs Write legibly upon only one side tide of or tho the paper It Is necessary that t you append the tho right name and address but these will be held In strict confidence and will wilt by Dy no means appear in print Ed BROKEN ENGAGEMENT Dear Miss Blair A girl friend of or mine went with a fellow for two years and then be became became became be- be came engaged to him They were were engaged for or two years during which time the fellow worked ver very little It seemed that he didn't care whether he ho worked or not Under these conditions conditions con can he was not notable able to entertain her in the manner that a girl sirl usually likes In the course of the two years that they were enraged engraved my mr friend refused many sunny dates to go so out with other boys There was one boy in particular l who worked where she did and With whom she refused to go 0 places many times Then one Sunday night he be went up to see sec her without her per per- mission Her ner fiance was there and she refused the other boys boy's Invitation to go 0 out Her lIer fiance questioned her hervery hervery very ery closely as to her ness She admitted that she had tone pone with some boy friends to a I dance He lie didn't like that er very well Later In the evening evening- the question came up as to where they should attend at attend at- at tend tend church hurch My 1 friends friend's s m mother t er wanted to go to one ward ana and the inc boy wanted to go to another He lie Finally accompanied them to their church but he did not go Inside with them After church ho he met my friend and demanded his ring back Her folks never did like him but she was sorry to have hae the engagement broken How hlo can this girl tirl win in her her- sweetheart sweetheart sweetheart sweet sweet- heart back again Shall ShaH she go to hIm aim and apologize or just wait walt for him jim to come Why do you think he broke the engagement Thank you CLARA I see no rio reason from your story for or the girl making any apology It was not her fault bull that her parents disapproved of her choice of fiance she was not to blame for the call her working boy friend made on her without her permission and she doubtless felt that she had a right richt to togo togo togo go to a dance with other boy friends when her own sweetheart was making mak- mak tag ing ng no attempt to take her The mater matter matter mat mat- ter er of her going to church in her own ward vard instead of ot to his was so unimportant unimportant as to be disregarded Though Thought it t may have been just that last little straw that broke the camels camel's back We cant can't help thinking that her fiance was in a pet peeve that tha t he should hould meet her after church and nd demand demand de- de mand nand his ring back But too man many r things had happened all in one evening evening even- even ing ng the prospective rival calling at athe atthe atthe the he door her confession of having gone Zone out with out with other boys bos to a dance the he argument as to which church to attend It was all too much for him But after all we think he be was just using the evenings evening's disturbances to his self respect as excuses He was just waiting v for tor something to come up to save his own face And he was doubtless glad when he had a case against his fiancee instead of having to take all th the blame on himself for tor breaking the engagement If the boy had honestly tried to get work and failed well we would have a different angle to this story But his lack of oe ambition leaves him no excuse for taking his fiancee so much for granted If after all this your our friend really wants him back I again she must get in touch with him I have him come to her home and ina ina in ina a straightforward manner ask that they talk things over again But it would be a mistake for her to go groveling to him with apologies apologies- i if you are re sure she is no more to blame than your story relates Even if it so apologies should be mutually given and received ACCESSORIES FOR PRO PROM l Dear Miss Blair I am going to the Junior prom and I have my dress but no shoes to go with It It My Mr dress is peach col col- col- col or What kind and color of shoes should I have Thank you ou I MERLE Have you OU seen the new sandals for evening we wear wear r The They are much in vogue e right now With the lace patterned fine mesh hose they are swanky They come in colors to match your gown or you yov may have them in combinations ol of black and gold or black and silver N NAME IE FOR BABY Dear Miss Blair We Wc have such a darling new baby girl We have han thought of dozens of names but we Just cant can't find a name nice enough for lor her Will VIli you ou please suggest a list of names Wed We'd like to select something that will be bo suItable suitable suitable suit suit- able for her when she is 15 tiny and when she Is grown up too Thank you M MOTHER OTHER AND DAD s Let me suggest CAIL LL WEt i 1 i way by which all mothers and fa fathers fathers fa- fa ai a- a i can acquire V v fw long lists of names i- i c for their children Each of you ou make i a 3 list of your c own then ask askI I your friends to give you a list of 5 names they like best In making makin your own list use the dictionary or combinations of names and coin names Think of oC historical names you have liked and of ot names in books of fiction My Myown Myown own list which we wc no longer publish in the column contains only the old standbys such as ns Caroline Barbara Margaret and Patricia NEEDS FRIEND IN MOTHER Dear Miss Blair It seems to me mc that all aU girls begin having trouble at home when they get td Into high school Just because a mother who should be your our best friend friend and and probably is ls is misunderstands stands you ou I just cant can't get along with my mother She has said some things to me mo that have cut so deep the they will never lien heal I am beginning to feel that my mot mother her doesn't l even want me 4 around that she I c doesn't tr try to understand un un- un-fl un I me or ormy f my views view on different dif dif- dif dif- 1 it ferent subjects I tn Instead tead of being a apai apal apal pal pai to me rae she shet t 14 seems to want to J hiJ hinder me and andI i fL she harps on someI something some some- I I thing Ive I've done until I feel as if I II would go crazy raz if she doesn't hush up All girls make mistakes of course but do they need to be told and told and told old about them Ive I've had chances to get married but I want a happy hapP time before marrying and yet et at times I feel as If I would marry just to get away from home I realize I shouldn't feel this way but I do I would like to hear through Hearts Heart's Haven from Irom other high school girls as to how they solve their problems with their mothers I hope Miss llIs Blair that you OU can give Ive me some ad adlee advice advice ad- ad vice lee on my own as It seems too great reat for my shoulders HURT I Most girls in the adolescent period of their lives feel that their mothers misunderstand them Hurt But in reality you are misunderstanding your OUr mother and hurting her as much muchas as you feel she is doing the same thing thine to you Mothers have through gh t the he adolescent sc per period d. d Th They have ha been 13 14 H 15 and so on Most of them haven't forgotten what it was like to be that age They know that girls are restless are longing to try new ways of life Ufe are apt to do vcr very foolish things in order to try a new sort of freedom they think their age permits them The wise mother will of oC course help to lead her daughter into inlo the kind of freedom that will finally bring her happiness and not shackle her for life A mothers mother's patience is greatly tried and sometimes she nags and harps on the same mistakes just because she Is too tired to do anything any any- thing else Mothers may say things on the spur of the moment that seem very cry harsh but daughters with strong wills to understand sometimes drive them to it Your mother has lived your age but you haven't lived hers That is Js wh why you ou are unable to reconcile the things she says to you OU with her actual love for you Make the attempt to have gentler ways with Ith your our mother Do kind littIe little lit- lit tIe lle acts for her Encourage her Praise her Your mother is a girl at heart no older than you Be cheer ful CuI about the tasks she gives you to perform Apolo Apologize ize sincerely for your OUr mistakes and then suggest that neither of you mention them again since it is so much easier to overcome faults when they are not harped about If mother and daughter pulled together in their attempts to understand understand under under- stand tand each other both would be happi hap hap- pi pier r. r Your mother is hoping to find much happiness in you That Is why vou you are here at alL Dont Don't disappoint her and she wont won't disappoint you |