Show COME TO TO HEARTS HA VENi I With BETTY BET BLAIR Affairs of or the heart hurt and kindred problems ONLY ONY will wl b be b discussed In this department Letters question question- Uon and nd requests for Tor or advice should hould be be addressed to t MISS DEITY BETTY DE BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HARTS HART'S HAVEN HV TELEGRAM TRA SALT BALT LAKE LA Write Writ Wrt MS legibly upon only one tide elde of ot the te paper and address but It 1 Ii 1 necessary that U t you append the te right name nae ad adde ne these tr will wU b be b held In strict confidence and mid will tl by hr no means mena appear appa in print E. Ed mm m m m TO BREAK ENGAGEMENT Dear Der Miss Blair Bbl I ain am m a girl of 19 and am engaged to be ie e m married red to a man of 21 We have tone gone for over a year er and aDd my parents parent have hav urged me to accept him although they have him known I was wa not no deeply m In t love lore with Even though I have come to t the point of engaging myself mel there are ar times when I feel reel that I cant can't go ro through len with wih it I to the point pint of getting getting get rd- ting married There Ther Is I no one whom I J like any better but bu I dont don't want to t marry this one one mar There thi are times again arn when I feel that I am a coward afraid arid of as assuming as- as suming the responsibilities of life le and that I am not the kind who will willever I ever ner fall rai deeply In lave bye Maybe If I were to get t married I would be b much muth more satisfied with rUh life than I am at le a present Please Plese advise advie me wh what to do RESTLESS RESTLESS It I is i better to t break brea an engagement than tha it is J a marriage mariage It I is much more mor simple from the standpoint of ofte the te degree degre of ot emotionalism Involved from the standpoint of expense and usually from that of ot public opinion In our grandmothers grandmother's day this thi was wa not so s. s It was wa a a serious even a a scandalous scandalous scan scan- dalous dalou thing to break an engagement A mans man's and a womans woman's honor were involved involve Today Toay however if I a girl gir finds out that a a man is 1 impossible or if i a a man ma finds out that to live lire with wih a certain certin girl would be a life life- long mistake it t is I much better to t call cal the engagement off than to t get your neck in a a noose nose simply because became you are too proud prud to extricate your your- sc self f In your case the fact tact that you OU are not In love with wih the man is I the reason rea rca son sn why you fear tear the consequences of marriage Love Lve and friendship and ad a similarity of f tastes tates between two contemplating marriage should be strong enough to banish all al fears feRr concerning the outcome And until they are arc arc marriage marrage should be delayed Mrya a man and woman have haye condemned condemned con con- themselves to lifelong torture tor tor- tor- tor ture tm-c tur simply because became they did not have the courage to t get out of an embarrassing situation before marriage marriage marriage mar mar- had actually tied te them One of the be best schemes scheme for remedying rem rem- eyll the te divorce evil is to t discover before marriage whether two people are ar eminently fitted for marriage marrage Inthe Inthe in inthe the matter of physical and mental metal development in I the matter mater of the pro proper r degree of feeling for each other of sympathy understanding and friendliness should the of romantic love disappear It I is I hard luck to have disillusionment come into Int your life Ue but better that It 1 should hould occur before than after marriage marage with wih nothing in stock to remedy It ke your time little lUe lady lay Dont Don't b 02 Into int marriage with wih this thi m man 1 Be De honest with wih him about nut the state tate of your feelings He will wi help you to t. t find yourself in your relations with lh him if S he is I honest honet and sincere sincer in his hs love for you WIFE REFUSED ALLOWANCE Dear Miss l IM Blair Although my husband makes make a good goel salary he has ha always alwy refused to t glye Kye me an allowance We have been married mare now four Cour years year and I Iam Iam Iam am so 50 embarrassed at times time over my Jack lack of the price even of c carfare tb that t I have been driven to deceiving him He lIe willingly pays pay the grocery ocer an and other household bills bUs but bat when I ask Mk him for money he says if I I want anything I can cn go 10 to the store and charge It It I have luc never ne been en abe able to t mike make Ike him see pee ee that there are ae times when I must mut have money 1 must mut have haTe carfare cafare there are club dub dues du to be he b paid etc ct I hate to be a cheat chet but I have been forced several everl times to go ro to m my grocer and get d cash cah and have him charge It I to the grocery oer account account ThLIn This in itself is embarrassing ln but I feel feI tint my husband has driven me to do this underhand trick even though I et It If I you can sur suggest t any better way please do UNHAPPY With all al my worldly goods go I thee endo endow Its It's in the marriage marage ceremony cere cere- mon mony Isn't it Therefore what Is 1 your husbands husband's huband's is likewise yours and andI andl I would never embarrass embar myself mel by having to go so to the grocer gor for what wha belonged to me mc Id I'd Id have a showdown showdown show do down with a a husband huband who could be beso b so 80 contemptible as a to treat trat his hi wife wie like a a child chUd about abut their common purse What divine right of kings s sha has ha been ben conferred on him that en enable enables enables en- en ables able him to get away with such high highhanded highhanded highhanded handed stuff You save him the expense of a housekeeper dont don't you ou You perform the office of cook cok dishwasher and general housemaid Then claim your wages wage Just Jut Jog his hi memory about the fact that what what is I his hi is I likewise yours and that you are going go go- ing lug to get your share Make him see the Imperative need ner you have for a ac c cash h allowance Let Lt him know kow once and ad for all al that that you cannot continue to t be treated in this thi manner maner Your own ow underhandedness is I not comparable com corn parable parale with his hi meanness meane in withholding withholding with with- holding from you what Is rightfully yours our He Is I the kind of man whose who wife should commit highway robbery I on him hm If I he doesn't come through A great geat deal of marital marSal discontent and unhappiness would be b spared spare if 1 there here could be b a good go understanding before marriage mariae as a to t what a a woman husband about m might ht expect of her huband money Then if S he doesn't dont don't live lve up to t the prearranged plan I would go out and earn ear what I 1 needed neede before I 1 would go to t the mat with a man ma every time I need needed d some small change cange A man who ho is I mean enough to refuse refUe a woman an allowance in reason with his hi income for her personal personal per per- needs need is I the kind of ot man who would leave her if S she were circumventing circumventing circum circum- venting him him A man who thinks he heI heis hes is I s providing amply for his wife wie when he tells her to t charge what he knows kows cant can't be b charged is i the kind of skinflint skinflint skin skin- flint who takes all al a a woman has ha to offer of love and devotion and and toil tl and time and keeps keep her running up upa a lifetime charge account on his hi own ow affection which Is 1 never never paid NAME FOR FOR JEWEL De Dear Dea Miss Blair A friend of oC mine In the Orient Orent is I sending me inc a gift rf for Christmas which he calls cals in his forward forrd letter lettera leter letera a tide jewel Please tell tJ me sue what the tide Jewel l Je is b. Thank you ou The Japanese call caU the pearl the tide Jewel Jewel and regard It i as a a a certin lain aln tin luck bringer briger You are fortunate that you will be b the recipient of a areal areal areal real tide Ude S SWINTER WINTER WINER EYES Dear Miss Blair Every winter my ray eyes eye get ret a reddened reddened red red- r- r and watery water look and the crows crow's fet feet around them Increase alarming aLarming- ly Iy Is I Is I there anything I can cn do to 1 prevent this Thanking you INEZ INEZ H Battling Batting winds and cold and sleet and ad flying dust and smoke is i a much more difficult job than tha battling the sun sun for the battle batte with wih the sun is i won by wearing a sunshade By way of preventive treatment against crows crow's feet teet be sure that you put on ona a foundation cream on the eyelids the temples and underneath the eyes ees before you ou add your powder and take your plunge into the wintry out-of- out doors door At night after cleansing the face tap a good go skin sn food beneath the eyes and about the temples and genty gently smooth it into the lids The longer you leave it i O on the more will wi be the result resul Almond Alond oil oi slightly warm is ex excellent ex- ex celent as ns a an eraser of crows crow's feeland feet feel and eyelid puckers and has the ad advantage advantage ad- ad vantage of being very ver easy to apply and equally easy to remove the te following following fol tol- fol- fol lowing morning moring with warm war water Follow the warm water wash with a cold rinse Warm water applied to the eyes on compres pads pads s-pads pads of absorbent cotton cotton cotton cot cot- ton is i one of the most st soothing beautifying eye ee lotions extant extant Alternating Alternating Alter Alter- Aler- Aler applications of warm and coldwater coldwater cold cole water have a remarkable tonic effect upon the eyes also alo a n very noticeable beautifying ing effect cUed S GIFT GIF OF KITTENS KIENS Two adorable kittens are needing new homes They are arc part Persian and may be had by interested people people peo peo- pie offering good soa homes home if It the they wil vili wi call cal H Hy or see them at Westminster West Vest minster avenue |