Show I f 1 11 Mature Lover Must Pro Pro- ProN N teet the Girl lIe Wants to Marry D DEAR EAR DENS DENE 1 nm am thirty six years cars old and am about to divorce my wife on the grounds or of desertion Wo We are arc part part- partIng Ing on amiable terms however and andare andare are both satisfied with nith the arrange arrange- arrangement arrangement ment we have made Now I have fallen In love with the girl aged nineteen who helps with my office work and also acts as housekeeper day in my home She Is the girl I want and when i 1 pro pro- proposed posed to her she told mo me that she couldn't marry me because of the difference In our ages aes She likes her young boy friends her parties dates etc I 1 agreed with her that she should have ha some fun CUD before settling down I know once she did settle down she would be a fine wife and a good mother I look fairly young and am Inter Inter- Interested interested ested In many forms Corms of oC enjoyment besides parties The girl In question wont won't let me take lake her to a show or anything of the sort Do you think I 1 will overcome her objections to marriage I 1 know she is 19 ins growing fonder Conder of me daily I am deeply In love and would make any sacrifice lice fice which would lead to her happi- happi ness ness-lI K A The ANSWER The man who Is s deeply and tenderly in love with a girl much younger than himself has a double difficulty to deal with He must on the one hand follow the natural dictates of his heart and propose to the lady and he must not forget on the other hand to protect the girl he loves from mak mak- mak making ing a mistake out of her Inexperience ence and youth It is perfectly human that a suitor should rejoice in the fact of seeing his affinity daily and welcome the signs ot of her grea greater ter love for hIm Sometimes Some the girl in the case knows her own olm mind so ely definitely that her mud much older sweetheart can rely on her judgment to 10 make the right de decision If she is the quiet steady sober sober minded sort of girl ulio is hon estly anxious for a home and for the se responsibilities of she marriage may marry tIle the man twenty years ears older than Ihan herself and make a success of the job hut Dut Ihen a damsel indicates plainly that she lIe is still interested in being popular she knows her prefer prefer- preference ence for young men and their ideM ideas oj of oja ofa a good time then her more mature admirer oust must take hi his place in the background and wait for Jor her to make makeup makeup up her mind rt without mind any persuasion from him Because you are looking so eager eager- eagerly eagerly ly for Cor signs of the sort you want want H K you are arc able to discover in- in indications indications that your sweetheart is going to make an excellent wife wite and anda a perfect mother once she has set set- settled settled down it she isn't ready for the matrimonial undertaking she will willbe willbe be a disappointment to you and nd her married life will be a bitter dis dis- dis disillusionment to herself Cease try try- trying trying ing to convince her that you are her herbest herbest best hope of happiness Your more mature brain and your greater depth of experience may make it possible for you to sway the feel feel- feelings ings of your lady entirely in your direction but it if her mind and heart are not truly won over to marriage the result of your victory will be bitter defeat D DEAR EAR DORIS DENE I 1 was married a little over a year and my husband was good to me Then suddenly one night he came home to tell me me that married life didn't suit suU him and that he wanted to be free Cree I pleaded with him not notto notto to leave Jea me but he be went he was sick In the hospital I 1 went to see him and he be treated me as a friend Ue He has now filed suit for Cor divorce Sometimes I 1 think his mother is responsIble for Cor this situa- situa situation tion I 1 still love him What can I Ido do- do doII do-B do II whether ANSWER your mother mother- law In-law was somewhere in the back back- background ground directing her sons son's move move- movements ments or not it seems obvious that the man you married was a bad matrimonial Investment For no noman noman man in the world could be weak enough to let his mother ruin his not marriage it if he loved his wife as he should It is no infrequent occurrence for a aman aman man to marry murry without eter hat having ng given ghen a serious thought to what mar meant lie Ill has fu simply decided that he is sufficiently in fore 1011 to want one particular girl around the house all the time Mating achieved this he heis is literally amazed to discover that ull sorts of rules and regulations hate hale I come cume into effect since lie he murmured a few fete unconvincing words to a parson However heartbreaking a wife may find her husbands husband's desertion she can count herself lucky it if she makes her discovery about his brand of devotion early In mar mar- I while there is yet time for I her to free herself of a hopeless I entanglement and begin life lile over again I It If she's wise shell she'll accept the fact once and for Cor all that some men are not suited to that marriage they I blunder into with it-with only the vaguest intentions of good and that unless they discover their mistake in time they can ruin the lives of their wives and children It If your husband B H H has told you Oll the truth and you are convinced that he Is simply unable to stand marriage take his decision as final and make tip up your mind to get something out of life more satisfactory tory than thon the Job of trying to make a weak Irresponsible husband stick to lo a marriage contract e Dell le ServIce I |