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Show 2g Out Our Window . Foffe f I Bwutyirtd New Years Day is when most of us look back in retrospect, to recall where we were and what we were doing on the same day in other years. We do the same with our own personal anniversaries, too. The days of marriages, divorces, birth dates of children, moves to another city, iob, home or school, deaths. far deeper, are private anniversaries of former days and places that we each have, but which we note silently and alone. Letting them pass unmarked by feasting or friends. But going those Yes, on many an outwardly unmarked day we recall wha took place on that day in some former year, and the memory, because, sweet or bitter, it is ours and had its share in making our lives what they are. self-sam- with the sharp sword of mem- ory. There's an old home on Poplar look at, Street in Murray that curiously trying to reconstruct a never even knew. past day that Gram, as young Rachel Crozier, was visiting there with relatives and a young man named Arch Bradford was invited to play his guitar and sing for the group. Oh my, oh my, what events and lives came from that meeting. Without it I wouldn't be Ethel Bradford and my sons and grandchildren wouldn't bear that name either. Yes, the spot of ground each of us have stood on is special to us. will always see a playing on the northwest corner of 700 E. and 4500 South no matter how they change it. Some part of me will forever be turning somersaults, climbing trees and prowling the then open fields. I girl-chil- There is 'something' within us that loves to double-bacupon our experiences and stand again on the place we once stood. To meet ourso to selves k face-to-fac- speak. There are certain places, which, when pass by, stare at with odd thoughts. Almost as if I'm inwardly asking, "Who was that Ethel who once stood or lived there?" I Years ago (oh, I remember that date) a man and I met briefly and sadly on a certain Salt Lake corner. We each knew it was a parting sitfrom an "impossible" uation, and that should we ever meet again it would never be the same. Or that we even would be the "same" people. Silently and alone I mark that day. There is also a lovely pioneer-erhome on South Temple that stare at, almost expecting to see a young Ethel entering or leaving the door. It is now an office building, but it was a boarding home then and lived there during an eventful year of my youth. a No one, no matter how close or loved, can look upon "our" spots and "our" dates with the same emotions we do. For those places and days created our own private poems, epics and tragedies which no one else would understand. So . . . today we celebrate the New Year and have our memories of where we were on other New Years, but those memories will never be as poignant as the private dates we hold dear. Unshared by wifehus-bandlover- , children or parents. They are the personal, secret, blessed or bitter milestones which have molded our lives. I I Oh, I'd love to enter that door, peer out those windows and see those once familiar walls again, but fear holds me back. Fear? Fear it will be all changed? Or . . . perhaps truthfully . . . fear that it might be too much the same and cut me too deeply I ramble today, for I know I should wish you a happy New Mr. and Mrs. Darrin V. Glines Coffman And Glines Speak Vows In December Rites Darrin V. Glines and Debra Coffman were united in marriage on December 18 at the South Cottonwood stake center. A reception followed Darrin is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Veral L. Glines of Salt Lake and is a graduate of Cottonwood high. Debi is also a Cottonwood high graduate and is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Glenn W. Coffman Jr. Maid of honor was Saundra Ayers with Vikki and Katie Glines serving lete as attendants. Brent Bryan was best man and ushering were Rob Allan, Andrew Coffman and Jared, Jason and Derek Glines. The newlyweds will make their home in Salt Lake. Bridal showers were hosted by Betty Erickson, Mildred Day, Marie Proctor, Adrina Nordhoff, Lynn Has-laAlice Lindquist and Bonnie Johnson. 1, 1981 Teodtcs Ckifdtm and Folklore not only helps kids get ready to live in an adult work, it also helps them survive childhood. And parents, though they may weary of childhood chants and taunts, can learn a great deal about their children if they listen and watch for the lore in the childrens life. The folklore of children is a guide to the world the way children live it and changes in lore reflect changes in life and attitudes. Those who have collected thousands of taunts, riddles, jingles and verses from children, say that folklore may serve many purposes to growing children. Tuanting and teasing, for example, is one way, although a crude one, that kids use to build ego and define social groups. Taunting can also be a very effective social tool. A jibe is often better than a punch in the nose in stopping someone whos giving you a bad time. Children also use lore to build relationships. Cinderella, dressed in yella, went upstairs to meet her fella is one of a whole body of verses dealing with love. Jumping rope to such a verse is a safe way of talking about a subject that might be embarrassing to them. Folklore may disguise other feelings that children find risky. Kids have their own kind of protest song. Nearly all kids love to sing Mine eyes have seen the glory of the burning of the school. Its one way to let off steam when rules and regulations get to be too much. Children often share lore with their families. Although most parents will more or less cheerfully submit to seemingly endless knock-knoc- k jokes and silly riddles, there usually comes a time when they decide enough is enough. This is frequently the first time they overhear their children repeating a particularly vulgar verse. , flce Thursday, Jan. WEST VALLEY VIEW Pateult Children look at things and see them as they are, not as civilized adults want them to be seen. To a child, How dry I am, how wet Ill be, if l dont find the bathroom key is a rather clever andlunny statement of an obvious reality. A lot of childhood lore is very practical. One potato, two potato is a game for quickly dividing into teams without a lot of fuss. Heavy, heavy hang over thy poor head provides a pattern for birthday celebrations. Some lore, such as fairy tales, may help a child face the future. Many fairy tales are built around the idea of leaving the security of home to test oneself. This is, of course, the future that all kids face. A fairy tale may help a child feel more confident about a future that will contain successes as well as big, bad wolves. . Parents often underestimate the significance of lore in the lives of their children. Adults often run afowl of the statements which rule a childs world, without quite knowing what has happened. Children live by and believe in traditions. For example, a father may be furious because his son lied to him. But, in the childs eye, there was no lie because he had crossed his fingers behind his back. Another problem is that adults and children do not think of words in the same way. To adults, words are just symbols, but to a child, the word is reality. A child who hears Fatty, fatty, two by four thinks hes fat. Likewise, a child who fends off such an attack with Twinkle, twinkle, little star, what you say is what you are is showing his faith in the magical power of words. Adults also often misunderstand the importance of traditional games, according to folklorists. Fort.UnioiTBIvd.(7200,S.)4197ARdwoodRdJ Year, but more and more I think 1981 will not be a "new" year but simply a repeat of some past year we lived when Nixon was president. The same cast of players is being called to action. ... But a pox on it all. We can make our personal 1981 new. A year full of days we will silently and secretly celebrate with joy for the rest of our lives. And we can do it, led 0 CUGCHIIKED LED OgeOEED you know, if we wish. Ethel Cloward Now Mrs. Gardner Mrs. Charles A. Gardner Mr. and Mrs. Kendal D. Cloward gave their daughter, Kenalee, in marriage to Charles A. Gardner, son of Mr. and Mrs. Frederick W. Gardner. Charles and Kenalee were married in the Chateau Reception Center in West Valley and the reception was also there. A rehearsal dinner was hosted by the grooms parents at Hare Hollow for the bridal party. The brides sister, Kaylene Cloward, attended her as maid of honor and bridesmaids were Virginia Murdock, Deadra Davis, Sandra Ellis and Francis Gardner. Attending the guest book was Becky Moyer. The flower girl was Barbara Ivy and Mark Ivy was ring bearer. Kenalee is a graduate of Cyprus high and Charles graduated from Kearns. Visit a MW mv 3 PRICES GOOD DEC. Mr. and Mrs Bart William Forrest Murray high graduates, Elizabeth Ann Holmes and Bart William Forrest were married in the Salt Lake LDS Temple on December 16. The reception was held at the Heritage House that evening and following the wedding ceremony a breakfast was held at the same place. Elizabeth is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Michael H. Holmes of Murray. She has attended BYU. The groom is presently a student at BYU and has filled and LDS mission to Munich, Germany. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Don Forrest. 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