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Show The Tfumdcrbird Stokes: shape your feelings roommates can be friends SUSC Monday November 19, 1984 Page 3 professor says by Kris Johnson Todays roommates can turn into tomorrows best friends, said Jack Stokes, an SUSC sociology professor, at a forum Tuesday night. The forum, sponsored by the ASSUSC Tenant Association, addressed how to get along with roommates. Remember that youre only human and to expect only human behavior from the people you live with, Stokes said. He said nobody is perfect, and people should try to understand the failings of others. Stokes shared five principles that help a relationship survive and grow. No one is responsible for a persons happiness but that person. Individuals decide whether they are going to be happy or not, and should not allow others to make that decision for them. People must take responsibility for how they think, feel and act. We dont have to choose the old ways that were used to choosing, he said. If somebody does something, in times past wed say, That makes me feel bad. Youre responsible. We need to think it through and say... Im responsible for how I feel. It is better if people dont let others determine their behavior or control the way they think, feel and act, Stokes said. They must be responsible for their own emotions, he added. If you want a really good depression trip, he said, just start thinking they (roommates) are responsible for how you Youll always be down. People cannot control anyone but themselves. They shouldnt even try to control other people, but just control feel. themselves, he said. Stokes said people should be assertive but not aggressive in their dealings with others. This is the most important principle of all, he said. Roommates must learn to express their feelings to one another, he added. If you dont like the way your roommate squeezes the toothpaste, he said, then tell him or her, and together you can find a solution to the problem. In addition, Stokes said people should remember to be honest and open, and most important, to be honest with themselves. If you want to grow, get positive. If you want to just sit there on your duff, get negative, he said. Whats on your mind is what you move toward. Stokes also said people must learn the process of dialogue and deal with the issues. His advice was that people clarify the issue and if they cant find the issue, they should work at it until they do. People should value their roommates wants and desires, Stokes said, but they also need to feel free to do and say what they want. During the forum, Mitch Connell, tenant association director, suggested that people who have problems with landlords visit tenant association officials. SUSC enrollment still growing Southern Utah State College, boasting another enrollment increase this fall, has grown by nearly 50 percent in the last seven years, a college spokesman said. Enrollment this fall is 2,642, up from 1,798 in 1978 and 2,543 last year. The fall student body, when calculated on full time equivalency, is equal to the combined total enrollment of Dixie Junior College and the College of Eastern Utah. Based on the 1984 fall quarter freshman class, enrollment at SUSC should exceed 3,500 within three years, college officials predicted. One of the Wests most rapidly growing colleges, SUSC had an entering SUSC, which has grown nearly 50 percent in the last seven years, is one of the fastest growing colleges in the West. freshman class increase this fall of 36 percent over the previous year, according to Registrar Barbara Young. We think this is but an omen of what is to come, Young said. . The limiting factor to future growth might lie in the colleges inability to locate adequate student housing, according to Sterling Church, vice president for student services. A survey of available student housing conducted last week indicates that less than 100 beds remain in Cedar City, irtcluding both on and off campus housing. Trailer parks, which two years ago had substantial vacancies, are now virtually full, the survey confirmed. We are now counting on private enterprise to provide the new student housing we seek, Church said. But if that dosent materialize, the college will have to explore expanding the colleges residential complex. Dormitory occupancy at SUSC is at a high. All of the dormitory rooms are full, Church said, but we can begin to put more people into each room, if we have to. An extensive renovation of college dormitories is being studied, Church indicated. We made substantial improvements to Juniper Hall this summer, Church said. Additional improvements are being planned for next summer, as well as a for the entire comprehensive face-liManzanita apartment complex. The enrollment increases at SUSC have come at the same time the college has stiffened up entrance requirements, and eliminated state and federally funded remedial courses, college Provost Terry Alger indicates. Students now attending SUSC who require remedial education must pay for the entire cost of the courses. As a four-yecollege, we can no longer afford to admit students whose work will preparation for college-levnot be adequate to reasonably assure a successful academic experience at SUSC. We are suggesting that these students explore enrolling at one of the two-yecolleges, all of which continue to offer remedial course work, Alger said. ar ft ar el ar Rabbi M arc Tanenbaum, who spoke at Convocations Thursday as part of Jewish Week, compared the Mormon faith with Judaism. He also said Utah is the one place he can wake up in the morning and be called a gentile. Rabbi compares Jews, LDS by Bradford Lewis As part of the festivities of Jewish Week, Rabbi Marc C. Tanenbaum was the featured speaker at the SUSC Convocation Thursday. Opening his remarks, Tanenbaum joked that, this is the only place in the world where I can wake up on a Thursday morning and be greeted as a gentile. Tanenbaum thanked SUSC President Gerald R. Sherratt for his warm introduction and called him a man of vision. He read that introduction just the way I wrote it, he said. He continued, ...it is important to acknowledge the depths of the bonds which link members of the Church of Saints the Mormon the Latter-dapeople and the Jewish people. There are probably no two other peoples in the world who share so much of common imagery... I dare say that it is not possible if one really studies the origins of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-daSaints to conceive of a church of the Mormon people, apart y y from its rootedness, profoundly, in the central imagery, the central affirmations of Judaism and the Jewish people. He noted that Joseph Smith stated that the Book of Mormon, just prior to its publication in 1830, was written in the language of the Jews. He also used more examples of the ties between the Jewish and the LDS people. Tanenbaum said that some peoples of the world have come to believe that the Bible stories are just that stories. The effect of that kind of diminution.. .is incalculable for our understanding of what it means to be humane and civilized in the kind of world in which we live today. ...I am almost pained to see the way that the centre Hties, ideas and values of the biblical tradition have been reduced to fairy tales, he said. I want to suggest to you. ..that being a faithful Mormon, deeply rooted in the faith and the traditions of the fathers of the church. ..in its biblical power, and in its profound relationship to the biblical and rabbinic traditions of Jews and Judaism, has everything to do with our future and destiny; as persons, as communities, and as a nation... Tanenbaum said of his involvement with Jewish issues that he never understood the meaning of that biblical tradition of the sanctity of human life, of the obligation of standing against this destructive power 'in the world, that seeks human beings as statistics who are expendable, could have nothing to do with me, its somebdly elses problem, beyond me how I could never have understood the power behind the dehumanization that is taking place in the world, (until) I walked through the gas chambers of Auschwitz. Dehumanization of human life is the most deplorable act of humanity, he said. He did not blame the Holocaust on crazies, murderers, or psychopaths, but rather on the best minds in Germany surgeons, engineers, scientists, men with doctorates. These men, and others who have preceded and followed them, he called educated savages and barbarians. The world needs Ph.Ds.; it needs science, it needs technology, it needs people who put space shuttles in the air; but the world needs even more so people who know what theyre doing and why theyre doing it and what is the meaning of human life and whats the purpose of human existence. We have to stand against the destruction of human life, Tanenbaum said. We have to take a responsibility for every human being, he said. Tanenbaum concluded, We stake our very existence on that affirmation... |