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Show f married to this corl of woman will ni It of little ue to talk over hi btiElnees affairs with her. She could not give him advice or suggestions that would be of anv valu. AH she rarcs about his business, as a rule. Is that It shall make enough money for nirn to be able to gratlfv her needs and whims. I Again, some women there are who might be capable of giving good, sound, helpful suggestions, yet who would he really Incapable of keeping heir husbands' business matters secret. It would be impossible for them not to tell at least something of them to their best jriend. If to nobody no-body else. This might do no harm and again It might. The man with a wife of this sort needs to be careful as to how he consults her about his business. Again, a man, especially if h 13 employed by another, may not bo at liberty to "tell business affairs, no matter how much he may desire his wife's help and advice. Put when a man has a practical, sensible woman for a wife who has a good business had and can keep a secret If necessary, be Is wise Indeed to share all his business plans with her. Such, a woman can bo most helpful help-ful Not only are two beads better than one, but a woman has an entirely different dif-ferent viewpoint of life and the world from a man's. She can tell him thlng3 and give him Ideas of which he knows nothing. She speaks from a realm of which he haa no cognizance. A woman, wom-an, too, has a head for details, for economy, for little things that seem too trlrining to a man often to consider, con-sider, yet which may be the very things that will count most for his success. All her training for generations genera-tions has been In this direction, and these things como to her almost Intuitively. Intu-itively. The right kind of a woman can be of the utmost help to a man In his business. And It adds much to the happiness of a wife of this sort to bo consulted. She feels that they are Indeed partners. She rejoices In le-Ing le-Ing a help to him In this Held, in being be-ing considered as his equal In such matters. It makes her feel more truly a helpmeet, and the more a true woman wom-an can be of service to her husband the happleT she is. LITTLE PROBLEMS OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE By BARBARA BOYD. Tho henpecked husband always arouses sympathy, though there Is no sound reason why the man should rule the woman any more than the woman the man, still when a man is picked at. bossed, nagged and generally gener-ally made to obey his wife's hehesLs, his condition awakens more pity than when tbo shoe Is n the other foot. HIa friends lament and advise. They lure hlru away from home and give him a good time and in every way possible try to rcromponso hlrn for the miserable plight Into which he has fallen. There Is little help, however, for the man who has become a submissive, submis-sive, henpecked husband This is a thing that needs to be nipped In the bud A man wants to take It at Its very inception and handle It In a decisive de-cisive manner. If one drifts or tries lo sidestep it, it will gradually fas-ton fas-ton Itself upon him until he is helpless help-less In Irs grasp. II Is usually the forceful, capable woman who henpecks her husband, especially if he be Indocislve or weak-It weak-It begins gradually. She will stand out that she Is right In an argument or that he hasn't the facts correct In something he Is telling She will as sert her side positively. She will not budge an inch from the ground she has taken, and for the sake of peace, especially before, others, ho will give In or drop ihe subject, though he may know she Is wrong It may be all right to give up the argument then as it is rot pleasant to disagree in public. But in the privacy of the home, he should talk it out with her, not in a quarrelsome or argumentative manner, but frankly frank-ly and kindly. He should show her that It Is not well bred or considerate consider-ate lo be so positive and domineering and ho should p"iat out that it Is certainly a lack of courtesy and respect re-spect to him to treat him In this manner. man-ner. If they are jut married, if ehe has the least regard for him In the world, If she is a woman wiih any feeling for the lights of others, she will see his point and admit tho jus-tlco jus-tlco of It. This Is the time, right at the beginning, begin-ning, to take the matter In hand, Often a woman does not realize how dictatorial and positive she is, nor in what an unpleasant position she is putting her husband She will bo only too anxious to remedy It. when It is brought to her attention. But even If lb Is Is her nature, a man had better fight it out at the ery start and make it stand for his rights. Once h5 becomes a henpecked hen-pecked hut-band there Is no escape for hini. He can't run away from it, for the tongueslasblni; only awaits him when he returns. it is a most unwise thing for a woman wo-man to do, too. fur it breaks the spirit of a man, and no woman admires i husband of this sort If a woman discovers dis-covers that In certain things she Is more capable than her hushand, let her quietly and tactfully manage But do not lot her do it in such a way ! that she tears his self-respect to tai-,ters tai-,ters and makes him an object of pity and sympathy with all who know them. v- The time was when a woman knew so little of business, and was, in addition, addi-tion, supposed to have a mind so lnca-plae lnca-plae of grasping its details, that a man rarely thought of talking over business matters with her. Such things wero supposed lo be outside her realm. But this condition Is changed. Women Wom-en have shown today that they are quite capable of mastering business. Indeed, in some lines they are proving prov-ing better than meu. So that this ob-Jection ob-Jection Is largely removed. But this doea'not decide the ques tlon, however, whether It Is wise for a man to consult his wife about his business affairs. For this is an individual indi-vidual matter, and the rule that applies ap-plies generally will not always hold good in the Individual case. Despite the fact that there Is a host of successful women in almost all lines of business, there is still tho woman who knows almost nothing about business and is incapable of grasping Its details or absolutely indifferent in-different to them. The man who is |
