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Show ' bo raked up. Hut 'evil doing'always ho its consequences, and a - naaB should at least te man enough, to shoulder thern and pot want to shove Iart of thorn iijion on Innocent woman. wom-an. The satno rule holds Rood for tho woman. A woman, of course, Ik not likely to havo misdeeds of the character char-acter or nun's In her life. But she may have something in tho nature of a nrandal In her pagt that might possibly pos-sibly cast a shadow over her married life. She ought Ju&t as frankly to let th man know and 6ee If ho Ifl willing to help her fight It. These are the 6ort of thlDgs ft would Bcem ono ought to reveal. The trifling lovo affairs, the scrapes at school and such escapades as figure In one way or another in nearly every one's Ufo one can tell or not, as eoch di-eniG best. They usually are told for the fun there is In the telling. But It doesn't seem right to permit the person one marries to be ignorant of serious matters that may nffect the LITTLE PROBLEMS OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE By BARBARA BOYD. Some people contend that true love cannot exist without Jealousy, that It is the eye of love quick to see and report to the heart when anyone Is trespassing on Its property. They further fur-ther maintain thnt the person who Isn't Jealous Is to some extent Indifferent, In-different, i But Is such a contention true? Isn't love that Is not Jealous the finer, higher kind Jealousy Is surely an obtruding nf fclf and the more Bolf enters Into love, the lens pure It is. The jealous person Is thinking of himself and his rights and not of tho other. He be- Some women there are whose nature na-ture It Id when they lovo to give their all to the loved one. Their one thought day and night Is for his comfort. His every wish must be gratified, his every whim humored. Self-sacrifice for his pleasure becomes a jo. The thought of self rarely enters Into their plans. If they do have special personal per-sonal denires which clash with his, they Immediately vleld It Is doubtful If this policy Is a wise one. The comfort and happiness f her husband should, of course, be a wife's first consideration. But sometimes some-times she can give too much and yield too much for their mutual happiness happi-ness In the long run. To fetch and carry for him because ho Js tired from his day's work: to run her feet off to wait on him. is the girl must have satisfied him on these points, or he wouldn't have married mar-ried her. Even In these cases. If the girl does not fit satisfactorily Into her new surroundings in tho course of time, oven the man is apt to see the mistake he has mtide. The marriage of people of widely different social positions Is a risky proposition unless the couple aro exceptional ex-ceptional people. Though there is an old saying that love revels all ranks, certain practical things of everyday living will Jar and fret until love wears exceedingly thin Where of course each finds In the other a delightful, de-lightful, congenial eompanlan, when they find they can meet on an equal footing of likes nnd dislikes, education educa-tion and tastes in general, social positions can ho thrown to the wind. But where their bringing up makes them see life from entirely different viewpoints and live it in entirely different dif-ferent ways, then thor marriage is not likely to prove happy, or if It does eventually, it will be only after nil the rough edges and Inequalities have been worn off by much rrlctlon. lleven someono is taking what belongs be-longs to him only, or that the other Is giving what is hl3 alone, or Is not considering him pufflcicntly. JIc s suspicious. If jealousy grows too great within him, he does not always believe what the other says. If he d.xsen't go this far, be mistrusts. Surely all this Is not the highest type of love. Tho finest love Is the one that never considers self, that thinks only of tho happiness of the other. II the one loved enjoys the society of a certain person, tho finest love Instead of fooling a quick Jealousy of that porson, Instead of mistrusting r whether this liking is the pure frlndllnes It would seem, rejoices In the other's happiness. It isn't sus-t.IcIouh, sus-t.IcIouh, It dosen't doubt, It Is pimply fjad in the other's joy. There Is usually a trace of small-tesB small-tesB and meanness In the nature that Is Jealous and the greater tho jealousy, jeal-ousy, the eraaller and meaner tho nature, tho larger looms self in It. The big. generous nature that loves freely and wholly Is rarely jealous. It thinks only of tho other's good. "Whatever In the way of friendship or pleasure makes tho other happy Is a cause of rojolcing. It puts felf entirely out of sight nnd considers ody tho loved one's welfare. Constituted as we aro, however, most of us have a trace of Jealousy In cur makeup. Tbe woman who sees her lover or husband attentive to another girl immediately feelB Its pangs. She shows It according to Ler temperament. In berating him if s'ac.bas a vixenish, temper, , In brooding brood-ing over It and growing ' melancholy If sho be ol the quiet or he-signed simply training blm to be lnzy nnd selfish. There may bo times of extra stress when she should do everything within her power to relieve him of the neroFsnry lltle home duties. But to do It continually when he Is Just as able to perform them as she will In time cause him to develop an absolute Indifference to them and a callousness to the fact that she Is performing tasks which rightfully are his. The best man in the world can be spoiled In this way. He will protest at first. But there's not one man in a hundred who will not gradually submit sub-mit If his wife insists and In the course of a few years lazily accept all her attentions. The wife who always yields all her pleasures to her husband's wishes, who gives up without a murmur the little outing or sodal affair she wants simply because ho doesn't care to go, will find In time her wishes In such matters are not considered at all. It Is human nature. Tbe best of men may struggle against It for a while, hut ono Is rare who doesn't succumb In time. A wife can become n slave to a man and bo a monument of selfishness selfish-ness through her humoring him too much. It Is really her fault. She has digged the pit Into which she has fallen. Of course, she had no idea of such a catastrophe- She started the bad business with the best of Intentions. Inten-tions. But the thoroughly unselfish, Belf-donylng person usually creates a belfieh one. When there Is no good reason why a wife's desires should not have as much consideration as the husband's, he should yield to her wishes and do as much for her comfort as she does for him. It operates the other way quite as prollflcally, too. The wife who Is always humored and jiettod will develop into a nelflph, nolled woman, wom-an, though, as a rule, a man Is not so given to unselfishness and self-abnegation self-abnegation a a woman A woman Is more apt lo spoil a husband than the husband is the wlfo And It Is so insidious, in-sidious, It Is done from the heart's fdncerest promptings of love at first, that if needs to bo most carefully guarded against. Tho woman who has a nature of this self-sacrificing sort should watch herself that she doesn't let It lend her gradually and unconslously into spoiling a good us-brnds. us-brnds. One often wonders what Is the after af-ter life of tbe ml'lionalre's daughter who elopes with the chauffeur, of the society btlle who marries I he skating skat-ing rink teacher, of the millionaire who weds the manicurist. Scarcely a week passes without the dally news telling of pome such roarriatro between be-tween people widely separated In their stations In life. Are such marriages likely to prove happy? Soclfll position Is of course a conventionality, con-ventionality, it doesn't Imply In itself it-self the qualifications that make for happiness In marriage. One may have a prominent social position because of money made In any sort of way, because of family, because of name or fame. There are thousands without with-out social position because they possess pos-sess none of these things who are far wortheiertmen and women than many social leaders. Real happiness In marriage with the thinking couple .depends upon mental and moral, not social, eualqlty: upon congeniality. Because a mart Is a chauffeur or a coachman need not necessarily imply that ho Is not a man of good character with tastes quite the equal of those of his employer's daughter. He may be as a iran far more worthy than many of the society men the meets. When this Is the case, such a man luge has as much reason for proving happy as nny other. But tfils is the exception. Marriages Mar-riages of this sort ere usually the result re-sult of Infatuation. There is little knowledge of the real character of cither. And ther" Is stab a difference differ-ence in their manner of living, that dlhll'urionment and unhapplncs are almost certain to follow. When a millionaire's daughter conies to live with her coachman-husband, she finds thoy are es far apart as the Poles. . Of tbe little nice-ties and refinements of life to which stie Is as accustomed as to the sunlight, he probably knows nothing. If she Is a person of any senslilvene? whatever, what-ever, tbl grates on her and in time makes her miserable. Kwu if her temperament bi of the kind that this will not effect, sho ls"compeiIed as a rule to give up tho luxuries to which she has been accustomed. She must become acquainted with the cold, hard roalltles of life, probably do the cooking cook-ing and housework, relinquish her Paris frocks and fine lingerie and little lit-tle pleasures to which she is accustomed accus-tomed as most people to bread and butter. ThU goes hard to tho girl brought up In Idleness and luxury. It I only tho exception glri who can find life Joyous In the face f,f n. With tho poor girl who marries a wealthy man, the cae Is apt to be different. Any girl can aeeiiKtoni ber-elf ber-elf to wealth and the man a likely to be Indifferent In the matter of man-1 ners And culture or If he Is fi; typo Because ono Is jealous, he needn't rrldo himself on It as an evidence of love. It Is rather an evidence of selfishness that wants all of the other's oth-er's Interest and attention centered on himself and Is not happy If It wanders to othar fields for a little preasure. It should be fought against for It is a trait that grows with what U feeds upon and It can cause the utmost misery In life. The jealous wife can make a husband's whole exl6tance whetrhod. Many an engagement engage-ment has been broken because of unfounded Jealousy. It has caused misunderstandings without number. One should try to rise above it, to get the larger, finer view of love that Is so beautiful that it has no place In It for onythlntf so hideous as the green eyed monster. Whether to let the rend past bury its dead or to rake it up and expose Its fkeleton to the horrified gate of the one who loves him Is a question many a newly engaged man or woman has pondered. Many a man who has things In his past ho doesn't like to thinks about, and which ho has now put far from him. sees little use In bringing them to light. There may be Incidents In the past life of the woman which are entirely of the past, but which still brings a blnsh of shame to her face when she thinks of them, but which teem to ber of little use In recounting now. Ought they to tell each other these things? Is thrc a moral question ques-tion ot Issue? A good d'val depends upon the nature na-ture of these deeds In themselves. If they are the mero harmless escapades and flirtations of youth, with no In-Jury In-Jury resulting to anybody from them and only uxeful experienced gleaned, one can tell them or not. They may be told and forgiven and laughed over. Or if the oilier party is of a disposition disposi-tion to l severe upon such peccadilloes, peccadil-loes, to niake much of them and perhaps per-haps to make life impleaxant for a while because of there, it Is Just as wUe to say nothing about them. But when matters of a more serious nature, tho proposition Is very different. dif-ferent. Suppose the man has been a drunkard drunk-ard and refomed; reformed perhapB entirely, but nevertheless once this terrible habit was fastened upon him. Shall he tell of It? It seems tho only honorable thing to do nud let the woman decide whether ehe will still niurry him. A habit like that may mean much to bis health; It may mean much to tbe health of children should they have any. It might In time return. It only seem to square thing to let her know what she Is facing and tbe decision bo hers tut to whether she will accept the responsibility. It seems a mean and an underhand thing to do to take ndvanfnge of her Ignorance and bring consequences upon her which she at least ought to have the right to say the U willing to bear. The mda Is true of many other 1 habits a man may have formed when young, though thoy iw have no dominion do-minion over him. If they are the sort that may bring ill-health or dishonor upoa tho wife or family, he hhould frankly tell the girl and let her say whether she will share these consequences conse-quences with him. She shout j at least bav tho right to decido whether the things phall come Into her life. It mar seem a pity when a man has entirely reformed, and the acts are wholly of the pa-st, that they should |