| Show Page 14 —The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thursday March 22 1990 - Aon Landers BVPQyifAERKECKY s'k erx DEAR ANN LANDERS: When I read that letter from “A Screw Loose in Iowa” (the woman who was addicted to a cruel and abusive lover) I nearly fainted That letter could have been written by me "Nick” and J battled constantly We got into fights and broke up every other week 1 would become depressed arid cry for hours Then J’d end up begging that lowlife to come back Like ‘‘Iowa” my addiction to Nick made me ill I got ulcers and lost 10 pounds in two weeks worrying about what the creep was doing behind my back My doctor sent me to a counselor who opened my eyes 1 know now that J was addicted to Nick as surely as if he were a drug It’s been six months since I’ve seen him and I couldn’t care less — Free at Last in Palo Alto DEAR PAL: The mail generated by "Iowa” was fascinating J was struck by the fact that addicted women outnumbered men about 30 to 1 Read all about it: Pittsburgh: My addiction was named Ralph He was handsome smart successful and sexy but he had a mean streak a mile long and a yard wide No matter how well the evening started out I always ended up in tears I promised myself two dozen times that! would stop seeing him but die pull was so strong J was helpless and Ralph knew it Finally decided to get into therapy and unhook myself My therapist made me promise I would never call Ralph again She said "When the urge becomes overwhelming call me instead” I did at least two dozen times Suddenly I was free of him I felt reborn rejuvenated strong and proud of myself If 1 could do it anybody can Huntington Beach Calif: "Screw Loose” should be told that she is not insane What she must do is 1 realize that she cannot fix "Richard” but die can help herself learn how to live without him She should consult a therapist who specializes in codependency find a codepeadeot recovery group and attend meetings faithfully and read everything she can on the subject I’ve been through die mill and can tell you that is a way out because found it lola Kan: I was in a relationship with a woman who used to drink too much and beat up on me "Lena” weighed about 40 pounds more than 1 did and I’m ashamed to tell you that! was no match for her I tried to break off the relationship but I couldn’t I know now I was addicted to her After six months of therapy I discovered she was a mother substitute anal felt needed to be punished just like when was a little boy Once I got that through nay head was able to tell Lena to get lost I’ve never been happier Portland Ore: I was addicted to a married man who was poison I called him on the phone at least five tunes a day If he wasn’t where he said he’d be I’d go crazy 1 knew had to break up with Jhim because In was taking over my thoughts night and day It was like being enslaved I tried acupuncture hypnosis meditation and biofeedback Nothing waked Then one day I spotted a shiny silver object on the sidewalk It was a little lapel pin that said 'Try God” I picked it up and thought to myself why not? I’ve tried everything else I hope you won’t think I’m same kind of nut Ann but after a week of deep prayer I suddenly didn’t want to see my married lover ever again I don’t know what anyone else would call it and I really don’t care To me it was a miracle e 1900 Creators Syndcato Your Birthday In the year ahead you may participate in an involvement where you have a minor but acritical role What yen’ll gam from this arrangement will be far more significant than your tide flygtiA&f § MrSCHULTZ""! DECIDE IF I LIKE or you N0Tyou haye ESPECIALLY WHEN THE TEACHER I CAM! calls on s vVV- might be a little too complicated for you to do single handed You might not need assistance but then again you may LIBRA (Sept 23) Do not yield to grow want if they pressure today you to go along with something you instinctively feel does not serve your best interests Your independence will be respected SCORPIO (Oct 22) lit looks like this could be an extremely productive day for you because you will be inclined to tie up loose ends and anything which is left undone will frustrate you SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) Today you are likely to be more mentally dun physically restless these impulses can be gratified however if you share your time with stimulating companions who make you dunk n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) Sonething in which you’re presently involved has good rh- for success provided you lay a sturdy foundation at this time Begin today to build for your tomorrow b AQUARIUS (Jan 19) Outward appearances tend to be a trifle more significant than usual today Put on a positive face if you hope to inspire or direction others To be a leader you must look Ukealeadcr PISCES (Feb 20) Your intuitive perceptions could provide you with yaluaHe information today This is because your hunches might reveal things your logic ignores 23-O- ct tu: J i- - r v w1 ‘ 'j j: v v 24-N- ov ARIES (March 19) When dealing with friends today strive to subdue your assertiveness because if you attempt to impose your views or opinions on them relationships could become testy TAURUS (April 20) Meaningful achievements are possible today provided you focus properly on your objectives You could fall short of your mark if you lack concentration and continuity GEMINI (May 20) Make an effort at this time to begin to broaden your perspectives The wider your horizons the greater your possibilities for aAlitirmal npnnrtiinifiAg CANCER (June 22) This is a good day to investigate situations that have recently aroused your curiosity If you apply yourself you should be able to fenet out information you now lack LEO (July 22) Before jumping to conclusions today take time to weigh and balance both sides of inmortant issues Your decisions will be constructive if you use your analytical abilities Y1RGO (Aug 22) Have some back-u- p available today if you have to do something you fed 21-Ap- riI 20-M- ay 21-Ju- ne 21-Ju- ly 23-A- ug 23-Se- 23-D- ec 22-Ja- 20-Fe- 20-Mar- ch pt O J 990 Newspaper Enterprlw v- - V?-±Sx DEAR DR GOTT: In a recent column you wrote that you had been unable to identify asifity a compound worn around the neck during die great Whoever asked the influenza epidemic of 1918-1- 9 90 be must years old As soon as I nearly question saw the word I knew what it was That particular sequence of vowels and consonants could only be one word a local corruption for e medical remedy: the name of an assafoetida This remedy was made from the roots of the plant Naithex Assafoetida It was considered a stimulant an expectorant and a a powerful laxative At the turn of the century children commonly wore little doth bags of assafoetida pinned on their undershirts on a string around the neck to w ard off colds and lung congestion I’m amazed that you a physician never heard of it Therefore J assume your plea of ignorance was to write so really a ploy to fire up all the you could discover how many senior citizens read your column DEAR READER: You attribute to me a cleverness that 1 disavow I really didn’t know what asifity was But I suspected I could count on a few elderly people such as you to set me straight old-tim- a dd-time- rs Today is Thursday March 22 the 81st day of 1990 with 284 to fallow Tlie moon is waning moving toward its new phase Tlie morning stars are Venus Mars and Saturn The evening stars are Mercury and Jupiter Tliose born on tiiis date are under tlie sign of Aries They include actor Karl Malden in 1913 (age 77) French mime Marcel Marceau in 1923 (age Crossword full MaJuMpal 4 M HMoof duff) CMoaotd ft dial 1) SmM 14 SuflWMf 41 41 hoacoM II II lyaptoao CIWI it maiipto Utm 1? 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