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Show REVIEW 6 Lakeside Review U (SatuiaJMarclJ998 "n Is W1M no- - life your a mess? Organize it t on VOLUNTEER CONNECTION 77ns is a listing of sohmmr positions mailable throughout Oasts County par more information, tall the Dm is County United Wax Information & Reerral Ser1 Monday through Prt-daine at 8 30 am u 5 pm T General opportunities The CASA Program needs, adult volunteer advocates for children who are victims of crime. All adults may apply to be CASA volunleers, but men and individuals who are multilingual are particularly needed Training times and other information may be obtained by calling Jennifer Weaver 1 at The Davis Citizens Coalition Against Violence need kutunteers to help with crisis calls? intake at the shelter, provide support fcf victims of domestic violence and maintain grounds and (he facility Ijjrf information about training and.chedulmg contact Judy Kasten Bell?rr786-(04- 4 or Susan Porter at 444-- 3 f9T The North Davis Rotary would like responsible adults to become mentors for Explorer Post 600 For further information plehsc contact Ext Howard Whiteway at 240 779-652- . Dl non AT SEMINAR: Gayle Crook of Kaysville (far NM. WlDI right) talks about effective time . MU management at a recent seminar on organization. Mary McGee (right) of Layton listens to the presentation. United Way r Planning more means doing less . HByfiUTH MALAN Standard-Examin- correspondent FARMINGTON - Do you ever won- der what you are doing with your time and find you do not have enough of it? Maybe you are spending too much of your tune accumulating, organizing and storing fcUlff. TTMore than 100 people learned it is time 'tO'get organized during a recent seminar sponsored by the Utah State University - - Every body needs a calendar system, said Gayle Crook of Kaysville. Crook wrote the -- homemakers and executive Kinder Music School. Homemaking is one of the toughest "businesses to run. You have to be an exeeu-mCrook said. She uses a perpetual calendar and a direc-Mor- y system to keep track of things. Since the mother is usually in charge of JU:ry thing. Crook said, she needs a way to track of each member of the family. A ..keep - ,jjist can be made of things she needs to talk -- to the family about. " g A system also helps. Crook Suggests a 0 system for goal setting. day-plann- er e, - J goal-settin- Each day take 10 minutes to think of your goals and write them down. Do this for 10 days. Each day you think about what you want to accomplish in your life. Think of the year, month or week. Once these things are mapped out, prioritize them, Crook said. When the 10 days are over, you are through. All of these things you are listing can be binder so you will be kept in a three-rin- g able to retrieve them when needed. Another page can include such things as birthdays and special days. When you see an idea you want to use, write it down, Crook said. It seems like a small hassle to lend things to people or to borrow an item from someone, but you should write it down, she said. It takes the hassle out of being a mom and a homemaker. Crook said, Everyone needs a system of some kind. You need a system that works for ou. You need to be organized to accomplish and to be effective. Crook gave a five-ste- p formula for time , management: ' First, write down the most important tasks to be done tomorrow. Put the list See 10-1- 299-200- By RUTH MALAN Standard Examiner correspondent ARMINGTON - What are some of the things you misplace or lose? Many people lose things like keys, remote controls, glasses, scissors, cordless phones and tools. Eugenia Chapman and her daughter Jill Major told homemakers how to keep track of these things and be more organized during a recent Time to Get Organized seminar sponsored by Utah State Uuversity Extension. Chapman has cleaned 400 private l"Tloihes and is retired from cleaning the Lion House in Salt Lake City. She is the mother of 1 1 children and grandmother to 57. Major, a free-lanwriter, is a mofher of eight and also a grandmother. Chapman htw given thousands of lectures on ! icfTaning your home. The two have the book, Clean Your House and ;J, Everything In It. So why are we losing things? Itl in We lose things partly because we have in tat nt iwi cn a person becomes a parent, both the and the child ex-;- ;; adjustments. perience major Parents who understand the stages of the change process are better able to help themselves and their children accept and to the new lifestyle. ' There are three stages people III go through when they experience Hi change: the ending, characterized Hi by confusion, grief, and distress; HI the neutral zone, where the famt-;- ;; ly adapts to the reality of a miss-tn- g parent; and the new begtn-I- I ning, the acceptance of new roles more stuff, and we have larger spaces to put things in, the two experts said. We have so much stuff that if we put something down we can't find it. Also, said Major, You get more and more responsibility as you get older so you forget. Brains are like libraries - the more there is in the head the longer it takes to find something in the brain. If you always put your keys in the same place, you will be able to find them. And if you have trouble finding where you parked your car, find a landmark, like parking across from the name of the store. Those who misplace their eyeglasses are those who only wear them part time. Chapman purchases several pair at a store and keeps a pair m each room and one m the car. As for finding a cordless phone, don't use one. Keep a garbage can and a calendar by the door. hen you bring in the mail just drop the junk mail into the garbage can. A huge family calendar can help you to know where each family member is. And Bountiful Health Care and Reha- " and lifestyle. The ending - Endings tell us that our life is HI longer as it was. I ormer ways HI uCliving and meeting needs are HI no longer available. When the ;;; ending comes, single parents may ;;; feel overwhelmed, not only with their own grief and confusion but HI with the responsibility they have Hi fot helping their children work ! through their grief. 115 Preschool children have little - you can write on it when library books are due. Chapman, 75, is still cleaning 20 homes. She told the homemakers that the first thing people see when they come to your home is the garage - if it is open, it should be kept clean. The front entrance and windows should always be kept up, Chapman said. She uses bottles to keep small items in. You can see bolts and nuts and buttons stored m bottles. Go through photos and paper while they are still fresh in your mind. When a child brings home papers go through them and throw them out. As for your possessions, leav ing them to your children isnt always good. Kids don't want junk, she said. Have your children say what they want. Use a filing system to keep a few of the things you might want when you get older or your children get older. Moke a telephone and address list and laminate it to keep beside the phone. And keep a pair of scissors at every phone. Put a phone in your bathroom. I know six people who have pdssed away because they couldnt get to a phone, she said. Use Post-I-t notes in the car to remind you to buy gas. Each month find the birthdays for that month and do birthday cards and write on them the day they should be mailed. Put outdoor carpeting on shelves and under the sinks to keep them from getting dirty. And to keep that big black garbage can from stinking, put newspapers in the bottom of it. Newspapers take out the smell and absorb moisture. Chapman keeps a notebook with all 200 of her videotapes listed. Her grandchildren write down what they take and they must have it back in a week. Chapman gave several ideas for saving time and making life a little edsicr. So you dont lose socks or think your dryer ate them, "she suggests you pin socks together in pairs. Have your children pin See STUFF5 families in for some big adjustments from people outside their fami- lies. Adults at this stage need to take time to work through the grief process, to learn to trust others, and to find a friend or support group with whom they can share their concerns and feel- st understanding of the causes, but frequently believe they caused the situation. They fear abandonment by their parents and fantasize about reconciliation. Young school-ag- e children also experience feelings of abandonment, grief and deprivation. 1 hey have fears about the future, and also fantasize about the reunion of their parents. Children 7 to 13 may have a more difficult adjustment. They may experience intense anger, fear and loneliness. Adolescents can demonstrate anger, fear, loneliness, depression, guilt, and may have issues with loyalty to one or the other parent 1 hey understand the causes better, can cope with stress, and find support ings. Children at this stage need reassurance from parents that they are loved and the divorce was not their fault. They need the structure of family rules and routines. A parent should reflect a positive or at least a neutral attitude toward their Avoid taking your anger out on your children. 1 alk with your children about your feelings of loss, but don't burden them with your worries. Give each child at least 5 minutes of concentrated time during the day. W'atch for warning signs such as trouble at behavior or an school, increase in medical complaints The neutral zone T he time between endings and new beginnings is a dillicult but 1 anti-soci- 4 PLAN5 Learn how to take care of all that stuff youve accumulated fSingle-pare- County in information call 497-9- 1 1 - , The Davis County Coalition for Character needs volunteers to assist with various aspects of thg "Team Up for Character" Relay The race will be held m Clearfield May I -- 2. Please call Kristen Hall at 774-655- 2 or Lenore Robbins at 451-341- 0 for more information . American Cancer Society of Davis County is seeking volunteer board members for high-profiopportunities such as interacting witlr retail outand communities lets, physicians, schools, and planning events ACS also needs volunteers to help prepare for the Relay for Life to be held in June Eor information about becoming a board member call 7 or Dan at Donna at 546-525- 1 For information, about Re0 lay for Life contact T racy at Catholic Community Services needs volunteers to help m their food bank, deliver lood boxes to the elderly and homebound, mentor needy people by helping them learn lo bud-gand to help lind housing for families Also needed are volunteers to help gather and make layette items for newborns ol families 1 or more tnlormation contact Yvonne Coiner at 394 5944 The Davis County Food Bank needs volunleers to stock shelves and prepare boxes of food for those in need. To volunleer please call Roger 2 Martin at Centerville Elementary School needs a volunleer Irom tbecommuni-t- y to head (heir Literacy Volunteers of America "1 Can Read Program " Eor more information contact Karen Bell or Carolee TTannery at at 292-620- 4 KORTDUCE Standard-Examine- of Davis Layton needs a volunteer to help update the Community Resource Directory and help with some general olfice work Come help the community in a cheerful office environment for more extremely valuable period. Its a time to learn new skills, meet new friends and try out new attitudes and behaviors. Its an opportunity to redefine your identity, develop independence and rebuild This is a time to take responsibility. Dont try to move through this stage too quickly. Adults at this stage need to clarify their own needs and goals. Create a balance between work and play. your job or career plans. Are you doing what you want to be doing? If not, docs this mean going back to school1 Parenting attitudes and skills will most likely need to be readjusted Avoid trying to be two people - father and mother. Learn to share responsibilities with the absent parent Be open to ch inge and growth. Set goals, try new things, celebrate your successes. Children at this stage also have their adjustments. They may have to adiust to the loss of an absent parent and most likely to a lower standard of living. A move most often necessitates a loss of social support from friends, school and community. With new financial pressures, a child may also have to adjust to the availability of a busy parent. Parents need to use fair and firm discipline and make reasonable demands at this phase. Keep conflict to a miniparent-chil- d mum. Consider joint custody; many children will fed more loved and wanted The new beginning This is a time of strength, goal achievement, independence and coping as a single parent. Resist using the excuse that you have disadvantaged children, or a broken" tamily. It is true that families have the edge, and being a single parent is tough work, but with special eftwo-pare- fort and a strong support system, single parent families can be emotionally healthy families in which young people can thrive. bilitation needs volunteets to read to residents of all ages, to help with activities and outings, and to be a friend Eor more tnlormation. contact Shirleen or Penney at Pioneer Adult Rehabilitation Center ts in need of a donation of a new or used wheelchair. 11 you would like to donjtc these items, please ton-taRobert Daniels at 8 ,The Arc of Davis County needs a volunleer to be a friend and an advocate to a mildly retarded. disabled woman. Eor more information call Sherry Aldrich at 4 774-747- 299-978- 8 Autumn Glow Senior Center in Kaysville needs volunteerrro help deliver Meals on Wheels, help m the kitchen and teach china punting tor more information, call SRJflcy Bergstrom at The Rape Recovtry Center needs adult volunteers two or three days per month who can provide their own transportation to respond to calls from hospitals and police stations and provide support and advocacv to Victims of sexual assault and domestic violence Eor more information call Peggy Hammon at 394-94American Red Cross of Northern Utah will train individuals for most areas of service, including disaster services, health and sJJLJy services, international service etc Gall Melan0 fo jijore infor-matiie Papke at H W Community Nursing Jervice and Hospice in Davis Count is looking for people who would ermw giving ol their time and talents foe the benefit of the clderfw and terminally ill Call Sherry at The Davis County Attorney's Office in I armington is looking for trustworthy adult lemalc volunteers to help victims of domestic violence Please call Ellen Archibald at home-boun- 46I-9M- 451-4W- or 0 den line) for Exl 4100 an (Og- appointment Davis County Schools need volunleers to work with stOdlntv Contact i drice Christensen at 5 alter 2pm or call the school closest to you Davis Hospital and- - Medical in Lav ion has QFdnings lor volunleers and junior volunVolunleers receive tr, lining and Center adult leers free meals Enjoy new relationships and tremendously rewarding experiences lor more informalion adults may contact Marcv at 77,1.8506 and youths may conlact Gloria al 825-924- 7 A boy would like a pal to play ball with, to shore computer games with and (o be a best friend If you like children, hast some spare time, like outdoor activities and computers. there is a friend waiting for you Call Easter Seals I amily Inends Program and ask lor (800) Tr t 1 388-199- 1 The Family Connection Center needs volunteers who are at least 18 v years old lo help in tlieir crisis I or more information call kav at Al r 4 I nurs-er- 2 The I annly Summit I otindilioit Center lor Griiving I hfUfron needs people to help children who have lost loved ones due (o death or disonc I or information about training and requirements, pie ise contact llarhira Iciglcr al v B, ( c S Fc c 8 s POOR' |