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Show . j J Roman's. Uforid I ENDURANCE. I How much tho heart may boar, and ye t not break! i How much tho flesh mzy puffer, and not die! 1 (u.stic-n much if ;ny pain or ache. j ; I Of oul or body brings cur end more nigh, j I Lcch chooses his own time-; til! that is sworn " " j j 1 All evils may be borne. ' J J We shrink and shudder at the surgeon's knife, j i ! Each nerve recoiling from the cruel steel. i j f "Wlwc edge peems searching for the TiUivering life, J Yet to our sense the. bitter pang- reveal That still, although the trembling esh be torn, j This also can be borne. 1 I "Wo sec a sorrow rising in our nay. I And try to lleo from the approaching ill: i Wc sek some small r-sapo; we weep and pray: I Hut whn the blow fulls, then our hearts are still; N it ih it the pain is of its sharpness shorn, j Hut that it can be borne. J AYc wind our life about another life: j "V"o hold it closer, dfsirer. than our own. 1 Ann it faints and falls in deathly strife. ! Leaving us stunned and stricken and alone; 1 But. ah! we do not die with tho?e wc mourn; I This also can be borne. t I F.ehold! we live through all things famine," thiret, ""' Bere-avonent, pain: all prief and misery, " ! j All woo and sorrow; life inflicts its worst I On soul and body but we cannot die I Though we be sick, and tired, and faint and worn i ho', all things can be borne! ,1 1 E. A. Allen. - I : . I V" THE SUNDAY 1IENU. " Breakfast. I (Irapcs Cereal and Cream I Crisp iiacou Poached Epgr 1 Lyouaisc Potatoes ' Sally Lumi ? Coffee. j Z Dinner. f Cream of Corn Soun j ! - Koast Ribs of Bwf j Curry of Rice I Spinach Escallopod Onions 5 Letluee and Walnut Salad. I Banana Fritters Black Coffee ! Supper., I Sliced Ham Parsnip Croquettes j Pot Cheese Cold Slaw I Spiced Grapes j Sunchine Cake Canned Plums THE RATIO OF HEAL MOTHERS. j Edward Puk in Ladies,' Home Journal, j The folks in one of our largest cities read in I iheir paper at breakfast not long ago that 835 lit- I lie children, all less than o years of age, had died I in that city during the preceding week. The statis- tics aroused the press and people, and the leading I medical petitioner among children in the .city was "interviewed." His comment on the statistics i was brief: "My surprise is not that the S3" little lots are dead, but lhat the other hundreds are f -alive.'' Urged to explain his impressive statement, I he added: "The ignorance of the average mother in connection with the diet and care of her child is I so great that it is almost beyond belief." And I then the staid old physician went on to say: "From j an experience born of forty-three years' practice I "among children my conservative conclusion is that ihe ratio of real mothers in this country is less than I len in a hundred." One's first thought on reading so remarkable a statement is to dismiss it is ex- : travagant. And yet if one. goes into the matter ; a little it is surprising and sad to find how: very i ' cW to the truth is the old physician's estimate. It 1 Interview, if one will, the matrons of the city hos- f pitals lo whom thousands of children are yearly j brought; talk witn the average practitioner among children; come into contact with the teachers of ; the young, and one soon begins to consider such ' a statement with respect instead of incredulity. : It is positively sad to ihink of the criminal ignorance ig-norance which exists on the part of nil too many mothers with regard to what a young child can wisely and safely eat. A short time since I had the curiosity to watch the breakfast which a mother moth-er gave io her little girl of 3 on a sleeping oar. j First, an orange: then one piece of bread and but- l ter (about one inch wide and three inches long), f two pieces of dried beef, two olives, and five good sized pieces of walnut candy! And all thrj at 7 I o'clock in the morning. Finally tho whole mess was washed down by the child with a large cup of I black coffee. The mother are all these things as j well, with a nursing baby in her arms! In an hour the 3-year-old child was ill, the mother was 'car- ! sick," and wondered why, and spent the rest of the : morning feeding the balance of the walnut candy 10 1 ho child at her side, and in dosing herself with. acid phosphates! The little child walpale. anaemic and undersized, and yet all advice offered thfmoth-er thfmoth-er about the diet of her child proved absolutely un- ; availing. "Why, she's had those things to eat since I she was a baby, was her surprised rejoined, while all the time she was allowing the child of 4 months j in her arms to suck at a huge piece of the same walnut candy ask she held it between her fingers! I "An ignorant woman," is the quick judgment. Xot at all. She was above the average woman in iu- i lelligencc. . , At a recent luncheon a boy ate the following: I Three broiled oysters, two potato croquettes (fried f in deep fat), three hot raised biscuits, two ginger- snaps, one slice of cake, a serving of coffee jelly, and a large cup of cambric tea! The boy's mother, in addition to all ibis, offered him a large slice of fruitcake, but he didn't happen lo want it. During the course of ihe afternoon he was given, by his mother, over a dozen separate pieces of cream candy. This boy is, of course, insufficiently nour-. nour-. ished, and to the mother the constant ailing condition condi-tion of her child is a matter of absolute surprise! A little girl of two years and a half in another i family was given anything she sawon the table 1 ? and wanted. At one meal fhe ate three helpings of i fried Saratoga potato chips and two ears of green corn, finishing with a dessert of pineapple ! The little girl is languid, pale and undersized, and in a sadly anaemic condition. A type of the indulgent in-dulgent grandparent, who undoes more in one hour than a parent has been able to accomplish in a we-k with the training of a child, had her little granddaughter of 4 years at her homo to luncheon. The grandmother belongs to that class, so comforting comfort-ing to themselves that '"know everything about children." yet shlo fed her grandchild two pork chops and a boiled apple dumpling. The poor little, tot was violently ill with catarrh of the stomach for a week, and it was three weeks more before she had recovered from her grandmothers "wisdom." The grandmother agonized over the child's illness, but could see absolutely no responsibility on her own part. An intimation on the part of ihe physician phy-sician that the child might have been made ill by so hearty (!) a luncheon was met by the all-wise grandmothers explanation that she had raised several sev-eral children of her om. and that amother's instinct, in-stinct, for a child was infinitely surer than all the combined knowledge of the medical profession! It wss this samp oracle of a grandmother who gave a. teethiug child of twelve months ice cream, chocolate choco-late layer cake and assorted cakes, and then wondered won-dered why the child was ill all night! A little chap of 4 is fed three times a day. for breakfast, luncheon and dinner, on red meats by a mother who has a reputation throughout the country coun-try for her able discourses before '"Mothers' clubs" i on the training of children! Vainly . hure phy- I sicians endeavored to dissuade this mother from her course. "We have always' had chops for break-fasl, break-fasl, steak for luncheon, and roast beef for din-ner, din-ner, and.see. how. .5t?-ong jindja-dl-jvcam?," Js'Jher. 1 argument. And yet the doctor is . scarcely ever absent from that house. The little boy is logy, dispirited, subject to fits, and is troubled with terrifying ter-rifying dreams. The mother wonders, ana her most recent antidote for the bad dreams is to keep the poor little tot" up until 9 or 10 o'clock at night "so that he may get thoroughly tired and sleepy." It seems almost incredible that a mother, otherwise intelligent, could be so criminally ignorant, and-yet, and-yet, this tragedy goes on day by day in that home. A medical specialist on children's diseases told me that during one day's calls upon sick children not one -of them ." years old he found their illness due in four cases to drinking coffee at breakfast; in three cases the mothers had permitted the eating eat-ing of pie, and in another ease a child of " in a family of eminently respectable and intelligent people peo-ple was ill because her mother had, "just for the cutencss of it," givenjier two glasses of beer! '"It was so cute to see heV hold the big foaming glass and watch her drink it, and," added the mother with pride, '"with relish, too, doctor," A child was, '"a bit upset," according to his mother, not long ago. The doctor discovered that during the previous previ-ous day the little tot of had been allowed to eat, at '"a children's party," "a plate of soup, four pickles, beefstcap, two helpings of corn pudding, three large pieces of eggplant fried in fat, some lobster salad, two helpings of ice cream, some nuts . and candy." The doctor privately wondered that the child was alive, and yet' the mother assured the doctor that her child's illness could not be due to his food and this after she had narrated the previous pre-vious day's eating. "Of course," 6he explained, "it may sound as if it were a great deal for Bobbie to eat, but he is such a hearty boy that he de-mauds de-mauds it." Yet the boy has, according to the doctor, doc-tor, a streugth far below normal; he is ten pounds below weight and his sleep- is of a disturbed order. or-der. ' ' Xor is this maternal ignorance confined to the diet of children. Consider, for a moment, the nervous nerv-ous injury done to thousands of little., children by their attendanee at those juvenile horrors called "children's parties." Far closer to the truth would it be to call them "children's graves." In vain have physicians cried out against these breeders of children's chil-dren's nervous troubles; in vain have writers written writ-ten against them. The only point of view that the ignorant mother sees is her conception of the pleasure of her child as the poor little tot is '"dressed up" (which no healthy child ever wants to be), and then tumbled into the midst of a roomful of nervous, pent-up, shrieking children. The little lit-tle one becomes all heated, and then the craziest part in the txagedv occurs when a deluge of cold ice cream and indigestible sweets is fed to him. When the child gets him he '"droops" from the j "good time" and is wakeful all night and languid and dispirited all the next day, if not positively ill. And yet the mother wonders why her child is nervous; why he starts and jumps in his sleep; why he has no appetite, and why he is not as full of healthy Tomp and play as the child next door "that poor little one who is never allowed to go to 'children's parties.' "! It is a pity that the tragedies trag-edies of "children's parties" are not more intelligently intelli-gently understood. To no otter form of unwise, juvenile indulgence or parental misunderstanding is perhaps so directly traceable the nervous condition condi-tion of thousands of little ones. We are taught to believe that every normal woman wo-man has the instinct of motherhood within her. But fact would seem to justify the doubt whether that instinct is always accompanied by either the average intelligence or the simplest common sense. It is not meeting the case to say that a mother does not know. She cannot be, excused on that score. We are. living at a period when child-study has received as much, if not more, attention than at any time in the, history of" the world. The seat of the trouble lies in the unwillingness of the average aver-age mother to devote that amount of necessary time to her child which the wise training of a child calls for. It is always a. poor argument" that harks back to times that are past-'and to conditions that existed ex-isted a 'generation ago. There is not less intelligence intelli-gence among women today than there was fifty years ago. But the mother of fifty years ago had one advantage over the mother of today: she gave her life up more unreservedly to the child which she brought into the world. There were fewer distractions dis-tractions for women, and naturally the mind and heart of a mother centered themselves" more di-' di-' rectly upon the things closest to her. It is ever unkind, if not unjust, in any strictures stric-tures of shortcomings in motherhood to include the woman who, without help of any kind, is asked; to look after the affairs of her home, single-handed, and rear a houseful of children. I am not an advocate ad-vocate of small families, but neither am I an admirer ad-mirer of that type of man who asks a woman to bring up from five "to eight children regardless of her strength, or irrespective of his ability to pro-! pro-! vide suitable help for her. That man assumes a heavier responsibility than his mind sometimes seems to take in who asks his wife to care for a larger family than her mental or physical strength can stand, or whose resources make it impossible to relieve nis wiie oi me wnoie aauy burden ot a large family. !Xo one would seek by thought or word to deprive the poor of the pleasurcblc com- panionship of children, but there is something due to a woman which some men seem to be incapable of comprehending. A woman can do just ?o much. She has not any more hands than a man; there, are hot any more' hours in herday than" in his,' although, al-though, God knows, many a woman works overtime over-time without even thanks from her husband, who is never slow to exact double pay for the same amount of overtime where it is asked of him by his employer. em-ployer. " . The mother who is at fault for the lack of intelligent in-telligent care of her child is she who has the time and the intelligence; to give to his every need, but who chooses to dissipate her energies in divers channels to the neglect of her child. ' Such women, unfortunately, are none too rare. - Xo man, be he physician or whatever his calling, can accurately :ftjw the rotiVi oi real mothers. That is a computa-. computa-. lion. beyond human keti. But -that' ignorance of common sense child training exists' Till" too much ..today. amng intelligent mothersvlohavuplenty. ! of leisure cannot be -gainsaid. For such there is no excuse. On the contrary, the responsibility rests indeed heavy upon them if tlreyYlo not meet, in the lnost' minute, sense, the fullest obligations of lov-! lov-! ing, 3e Voted and intelligent motherhood.- The train-j train-j ing of. a child should be the t raining '.of the mother: moth-er: the fullest lost of self in thevjehild; not to the I exclusion of home or, husband. , for,; Such is only selfish motherhood aiid loss of wifehood. But motherhood moth-erhood that is -motherhood "counts the call of the child second only to the call of husband and home, and places the world and its obligations in its proper place behind her child; not la its exclusion nor co-equal with it. In all this talk of whieh we hear so much today to-day about the '"broadening of woman's sphere" wc seeni to forget that in the Iibme' itself, over which woman reigns and in whieh she is supreme, lie the part.s of our entire social order: political, religious and industrial. There is not a branch of our living that does not directly come out of the home and is influenced by it. When a woman speaks of her home as being narrow she does not mean so much, although she so infers, that her home is narrow, as she does that she herself has made' it narrow. The lives and homes of such women as Mrs. Roosevelt and Mrs. Cleveland are not narrow because a good-, ly portion of each day is devoted to the intelligent fare of their children. 'It is a common remark to make, when such instances are cited, that women of such ""positions have at their tfoininand nxvrses and governesses who ulakq thetcalls of motherhood easy and leave the mother (S thie.for othermatters. This 'is true only in the 'existence of the fact it-i it-i se.l.f..But ip the case of noither-ei .tho-twt-inthFS- s ' cited is the actual moulding and training pf the children left to other hands. The vital phases of the welfare of the children are kept within the hands of these mothers, and the thousand ami one other calls, necessarily inadoupon the lives of such wvnen, are adjusted to the lime necessary for the training of their"chilcb;cn. and not at the expense of that part of their lives. As a matter of fact, both of these, mothers spend more actual time with their children' than do lumdreds of mothers with j far fewer demands upon their time and yet with equal resources in the way of domestic assistance, j It isn't so much a question of the amount of time, beat little or much, that a woman has at her com-l com-l mand. as it is how she uses that time, divides it and ! adjusts it to the most visfal phases of her life. Where too many women fail is that they do not seem to separate intelligently the needful from the extraneous: the things worth while from the things that are not worth while: the duties that lie nearest near-est from t he fancied; calls that beckon from afar and that may well bo left to hands not so full as her own. We like to speak nowadays of the progress of women, and point with pride to their growing intelligence in-telligence along certain academic, lines all of which is commendable. But let us lc careful to ask ourselves once in a 'while if the American woman wo-man is making equal progress along lines of intelligent in-telligent motherhood. It in't much of a gain if we are making a race of cleverer women if the vast proportion of women are not better mothers. moth-ers. Fifty years hence what will count most is what the present mother is doing with her child. SOLITARY REFLECTION. It Is Often the Best of Balm For Our Wounds. It Is Often the Best of Balm for Our. Wounds. Once the write knew a young man from a far. country who remarked gravely: "1 can think otno subject of great interest as myself and my family." The. naivete of the young Oriental in making this honest statement was amusing; but who is then; who is not of much the same opinion, even though reticient about it as a matter of good taste? Many proclaim it more offensively than did our young friend having practically no subject of conversation by themselves, their achievements, their immediate family and their eminent ancestors. It is quite clear that a women of this type claims for little group notmerely the center of the stage, but the center of the universe. ' If good or ill befall her in hers she cannot stay quite and alone to think the incident over and get its bearings. Her whole neighborhood, her whole social circle must share her pleasure or pain, -even though this come from no higher source than gratified grat-ified or mortified vanity. Oh, if she Would but take a few hours to enjoy the good words all by herself over her sewing or any other work she can do in solitude, to marvel if she really deserved them, to resolve to live up to the -idea! which they suggest, and to remember grate-' fully whosoever was inspired to give her this en- j couragement. The self-knowledge, as well as the self- reverence and self-controfrwMch the poet bids us seek, can never be acquired till we first acquire a courageous taste for solitude. If we think out bravely alone the events of our lives we can hardly miss getting at the causes of . ovrf success or failure, and we shall find little in either to feed our. vanity. For pur success will show but a small result beside what our greater virtues and diligence, had attained, and small even as the reward of our bet efforts beside that worthily worth-ily attained by more'gifted fellow-creatures, while we owe it in large part to the generous counsel or . help of others. - . - For our failures we can rarely, with entire hon esty, blame auy one'but ourselves. Conscience holds . the mirror up to nature in solitude. We grow humble, which is only another word for sensible! aiid a compliment which at first sight seems merely. our just due, inspected in the light of conscience, becomes a generous estimate for which we are grateful. " A humble, gateful heart is the happy heart and the best of company for itself ; because expecting little or nothing on its own luerits.'life is fpll of sweet surprises, and it is pleasant to be ahme to think of the mercies of God and the goodness of our I belllow creatures. i , . Solitary reflection is often the; best balm for heart wounds. At least'while the .wound is new and stinging let us br of irnd have our first grief or agerotlt with locj. door and curtains drawn. In the reaction after this feelief the matter will look different. What- seemed a deadly slight -will show as a probable ackwardness or inadvertance, and wc will realize maybe that the arrow in our breast has been barbed by our own hands. Anyhow, the hour of solitude has calmed us. The temptation to go forth and seek syspathy is less strong. Presently our worldly wisdom will come to our rescue and show us .what a weak and dangerous thing it usually is to-air our grievances. If our grievance is against the rich and power- ( ful the timorous will fear to show us sympathy and the mean will be sure that'-we are wrong. Our imprudence has forged a powerful weapon for the hands of these latter. To adopt the words of the prophet an$ apply them to our temporal affairs, our lives are more often desolated by our owiAunrestraint and impatience im-patience of silence and reflection than by any wrong coining to us from the hands of others. Pilot. . DO NOT FUSS. j When a woman's nerve are on edge; when she j starts at the sudden ringing of a bell or the closing clos-ing of a door, when she feels irritated and exas-eratbd exas-eratbd at trifles, not comprehending why she. cannot can-not easily control her voice arid "her words, she is in a condition of fuss. ; She worries over bits of things that are. not worth minding, and frets over a scratch on the back of a chair or a spot on the wall-paper as though a child had scarlet fever or a flood had risen to the sbcond-stPry window. Fuss begets fuss'. A mother prone to. it has fussy and trying children. 'Fuss in the mistress means fuss in the .maid. 'If ever life is to move serenely and -agreeably on, -we must renounce fuss and have quiet in oir souls. ' . , "Calm me, my Gad, and keep me calm,''"' is a prayer that most of us need to put up every day. i'alm me when-things are disturbing. Calm" me when disappointments throng. Calm me in .the midst of tumult. Enable me to put aside all needlessly need-lessly cumbersome clutter' and to sit in radiant listening lis-tening and superlative peace at my Master's feet. ; THINK OVER IT. Don't you think you "are too'old to do this, too old to do that. You are always, as young as you feel. People grow old by thinking themselves old. Don't think that .a life of rac and luxury is essential to preserving youthful, delicate looks. A. certain amount of work- and exercise is necessary neces-sary to keep the muscles firm and elstic and the flesh hard. - Don't let go of love or love of romance. They are. amulets against wrinkles. 2Cot all of tho world's homage is poured at tho ft'et of girlhood. Don't say you haven't time foi the afternoon's ' "forty winks.' Take it, and your renewed strength will show in a f reshenod complexion. A half hour's nap afteT luncheon will do more to eradicate Wrinkles than all the beautifiers in the world. Don't think that you are forbidden to 'think of your looks or to .attend to your appearance because you happen to be thirty. Balzac has said that a '.wpnian of thirty is at her most-fascinating and , dangerous age that is, dangerous. to the hearts of men. " . : ' ; ' ', : . i. ,. - ' . |