| Show Kathleen N Norris orris Says Pamela Wants to Be Popular Bell Service a Li 1 M S s y J H e x a ti y tJ t s S S s 1 sS S S S 1 There s one girl girland and andone one man who are breaking my heart By KATHLEEN NORRIS AMELA wants to be popular popular pop PAMELA ular ular She works downtown down town in a lawyers lawyer's office she maintains a girl bachelor bachelor bachelor- gIrl establishment with another an another another other girl she is 26 pretty enough smart above the average but not popular My manner isn t shy because 1 take good care it shan t be writes Pamela But way deep down In m I m shy I know men like my looks but a lot of them are shy too I guess guess except except the married ones The only attention I ve ye ever had is from married men and that doesn t mean much The younger men in our office and I could fall fallIn fallin fallin In love with at least three of them will stop at my desk desh to d state a let letter letter letter ter ask me if u I ve ye seen this pIcture or that recommend a good murder story it li they see a book on my desk and then pause by some other girl s desk for three or four tour words that drIve me perfectly mad with bew be bew bew w and and I suppose Jealousy I mean they will say to some really less attractive woman Fun at that crazy restaurant last n wasn warn t tIt tit It or Crazy about the new haIrdo or Ho v about Tuesday honey Too Tense Among Men Why don t they do that to me But of course I know why I kno vI v vI I m stiff awkward stupid WIth men I clear my throat and get red and say things I don t mean to them My clothes are right but they re Just a 1 I TOO rIght Clean neat dowdy correct When I ought to shut up I g and chat chatter chatter chatter ter and when hen I ought to break a Sl si silence silence lence I can do nothing but s vallo v vand vand vand and stammer But g ris like Ilke me and I know I amuse tl em cm and as asI asI asI I say married men always seem to understand me and I can talk to them Now what I can t understand the letter goes on is the sort of girl who attracts men and always has lots of attention They seem to make no effort Brainless little fools who can t spell are trotting off for lunch with the nicest men In Inthe inthe inthe the office murmuring and blushing and having a glorious t me Resents Being Overlooked There s one one one-I I d do t mean to get this far tar but I may as well admit there it-there It- It there s one girl and one man who are breaking my heart The man manis manis manis is my immediate boss but in m a cor corporation corporation as enormous as this that doesn t mean he s so very hIgh But he s sweet and big and clean and smart and I like Ilke him terribly The girl is named Lola she s an uneducated noisy little thing wIth badly hadly dyed hair paIr in m a wild weld mop but whatever she is or isn t he likes herand her herand herand and she can actually play fast last and loose w th the dates he tr es to make wIth her maybe she can go tomor tomorrow tomorrow tomorrow row n maybe she can t t U If he marrIes her she will wreck his We life leave h m in a few years and take h s a child with her and it et seems as asli asif asif li if I couldn t bear it Why WILL WILLmen WILLmen WILLmen men fall tall for tor girls like that and never see other girls who really have background and education and code and the love of home and tamely behind them Well that s an old old problem Pamela and until men solve it Reno Renow w 11 II continue to be flooded by pretty empty headed little wives who think noth ng of breaking vows and run mg children s lives Girls Uneasiness Affects Men Your pred cament Is not a new one e ether ther You say your manner IS not shy but shy or not it et is awkward awk awkward awkward ward and uneasy and that infects men instantly with ng of the name bame d Perhaps you think too much of the i PROBLEMS OF A A i Both s and married men pay payer payl l er Otis ons during working ho rs I Pan ela is pu pa led by react ons OM of men 11 J i t I the office where sl sf sla e a works SI 51 SIa e a writes m A Horns to ask if sl s1 esa e sa sas s the right Tight th to become pop pop- pop pop-l liar 1 lar W ic th Ih certa n men And sl si sla e a wonders won wonders dens ders why girls less attract ie to tha the t I herself recene more i t I from the most desirable me i t ha fa f a hleen Norris answers an Pamela u th f 1 fer I er usual helpful aduce and clar ty of thought for any social problem impression you are making on them and too little of the innate es estha tha that t your manner represents Charmis Charm Is an elusive thing to be because be because because cause it means very real qualities It means heart soul mind char character character character acter training self sel ne WIth enough of these things any woman IS Aped to face life llie and ItS changes confidently she KNOWS she will find friends win wm the man she wants make a success of her hersel herself herself self sel Cultivate Charm But in your case I wouldn t worry about these casual and temporary conquests Ignore them for tor the time be ng and devote yourself to the on of charm Get interest interested interested ed nely in m 1 te fe and life We WIll get interested in you Charm means personal freshness pleasantness of manner alert un understanding and sympathy thy for everyone about you It means that when you are sitting at your desk Idle for lor a moment between tasks tasks you are half sm 1 ng it means that you keep up with your read ng on current top cs and keep away from tactless controversy and loud vOIced express on of op n on If you hap happen happen happen pen to be made of crusader stuff that is of course something else aga n crusaders rarely have charm To attract the man you like to yoU make no DO visible effort But whenever when whenever whenever ever you get a chance to speak toh to toh toh h m have something to say that wIll draw his attention from the fact that he and that rath rather rather rather er standoffish Miss Brown are actu actually actually actually ally talking together Years ago a certain shy little member of my famIly used to start off oft to dances after asking me seriously Tell me three things to say to my boy Think of three things to say to yours If it is only t you caught m in that downpour yesterday or orIs orIs orIs Is this new time tune schedule going to mean you have to take an earl er tram train from Pelham or Did you hear the nice news of the SmIth baby it will answer the purpose And if after atler a monosyllabic reply you have to begin again plunge lD in courageously My sister and I were in lD Brooklyn when that storm started my mother lives over there You know in the Library neighborhood neIghbor neIghborhood neighborhood hood We live in m town but Mother expects us every Saturday Saturday- Sa and so on easily and carelessly just as asif asif asif if you ou were talking to a woman un t 1 he picks pecks up the conversation again Act Unembarrassed Friendly Friendly Unembarrassed If It the shy woman who feels stiff and tongue t ed w th men could only remember that talking to a newly met man is just like talking to anew a anew anew new woman acquaintance her whole manner and attitude would change GIrls like Pamela never dread meeting meet meeting meeting ing other women they tacy know that theIr approach will be friendly and unembarrassed Try that same friendly lack of ol embarrassment upon the man you want to attract Pamela try it on all men And at atthe atthe athe the same t me deepen your own character Into kindness understanding un of ot those about you and by the infallible magic of charm youw you youw youw w 11 II not only get your r roan rean an but everything else you want in the world |
