OCR Text |
Show The Garfield County Insider April 7, 2011 the lAuGhiNg pOiNtr! Kill with Kindness Recently I received this email from a reader: "How is the best way to deal with someone who never misses a chance to demean, chastise or find fault with whatever one does? Even when proven wrong about an accusation still, she persists. Making mountains out of molehills is a favorite past time. Eavesdropping on my phone conversations and criticizing what I say or how I say it... It has reached the point that if I didn't HAVE to have a job I'd leave. I am at a loss to know if there is a way to negate this kind of harassment." I keep hoping to find more organizations where bullies do not exist. Now I have found several, but they are rare and as my mother would say, "Few and far between." One of the problems with bullying is that it can be hard to prove and often times, bullies know this. For instance, how can you prove that someone withheld information from you? Or, how can you prove that someone is looking for your mistakes? And how do you prove that someone is gossiping about you? Or how do you prove that someone has favorites? Well, if you are a bully and looking for an employee to mess up, you are in luck. You will hit the jackpot. Truly, the more someone is looking for you to mess up and the more also have this informative they are finding fault with website Called Workplace you the more you are going Bullying Institute (http:// to mess up. It becomes this www.workplacebullying. vicious cycle with you liter- org/) . This is the best webally walking on eggshells. site I have found on bullyCompared to someone who ing with dropdown menus treats all fairly and with such as targets, research, respect, who doesn't have tools for targets, etc. The favorites and finds good in Namie's offer a lot of great people and looks for what solutions in their book and they are doing right. The on their website. Work to result of doing the latter? follow which of their soluAnother vicious cycle and tions work best for you. In the meantime, kill that the kind you want. Essentially, an employee treated person with kindness being like this will "go to town" as Christ like as possible and work like a mad horse. toward them. And if we Why? Because they know read Matthew 5:44 in the they are appreciated, ac- New Testament, it sounds knowledged, supported, like we would be supported and believed in, just like all in going this course, "But I of their co-workers. No one say unto you, love your enis singled out as "the bad emies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that guy" or the "favorite." So what does the reader hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, in the above scenario do? "Never be bullied into si- and persecute you." And as you do, keep lence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept in mind Mother Teresa's no one's definition of your words, "Let no one ever life, but define yourself," come to you without leavsaid American tire founder, ing better and happier. Be the living expression of Harvey S. Firestone. They might also want God's kindness: kindness to check out Drs. Gary and in your face, kindness in Ruth Namie (psychologists your eyes, kindness in your and husband and wife cou- smile." Cynthia Kimball is a ple) who wrote, The Bully at Work. I got to meet professional speaker, trainthem and hear them speak er and doctoral student at Oregon Health Sciences in workforce development University in Portland a and organizational leaderfew years back. Talk about ship. Her column, "Everywanting to eradicate bul- 1Counts," appears on delying in the workplace at seretnews. com weekly. She whatever cost ...wow. They can be reached at kimball@ every 1 counts .net. A man having lunch at a Chinese restaurant noticed that the table had been set with forks, not chopsticks. He asked why. The waiter said "Chopsticks are provided only on request." "But," the man countered, "if you gave your patrons chopsticks, you wouldn't have to pay someone to wash all the forks." "True," the waiter shot back, "but we would have to hire three more people to clean up the mess." Idioms In the store in Spokane, Washington where I work, we often get folks from out of town whose idioms are a little different from our own. One day, after parking across the street in an attended lot, a young woman came in, made her purchase, and then asked, "Do you give validation?" Without batting an eye, my manager replied, "You are an excellent person, and I love your hair." Instructions My mother was recently on a flight returning from Utah. As the plane was a small puddle jumper, the flight attendants were required to demonstrate the life vest, the oxygen mask, etc. instead of turning on a video. After they finished their presentation, one of them said "To those of you who listened, thank you. To those of you who ignored us, good luck." The minister announced that admission to a church social event would be six dollars per person. "However, if you're over 65," he said, "the price will be only $5.50." From the back of the congregation, a woman's voice rang out, "Do you really think I'd give you that information for only fifty cents?" The Old Hotel As a history buff, I was looking forward to staying in a hotel in Salisbury, England. This hotel dated back to the 13th century. When I arrived, the hotel clerk gave me some bad news -- my room was in the new section. Disappointed, I asked when the "new" section had been built. "In the 1600s," she replied apologetically. It Makes Sense...By Veda Hale I think an apology is in order to the US postoffice. Though some futurists predict we won't need it, no one is really advocating such a thing. I'm sorry if I gave the idea that such a thing was in the works. It isn't, as far as I know, nor as far as any research I did indicated. Actually, as the good post office workers in Antimony reminded me, the post office does a great job and receives no federal tax dollars for its operations. However, some things seem to be changing. Looking at the young generation, one is amazed how they can multi-task so much. To sit down and read a whole GARAGE DOORS book, is likely to become a Custom STAINING... (wood) rare thing. Young people Custom PAINTING... (metal) will find a good synopsis Over a decade of experience! Stain of a book on line and figI www.garagedoorstainingutah.com I ure they have the gist of the thing. Perhaps they are (435) 616-2829 right. At least right in some way. To get a rather good exposure to many ideas The Census Bureau's five-year estimates for the American Community Survey present from the cutting-edge thinkan opportunity to more closely understand the demographic and labor market characteris- ers of today, just might boil tics across the United States. Previous releases of ACS data have only covered the coun- together to give them some ties with larger populations, but with five years of data now collected, robust observations elixir of wisdom we slower of smaller rural populations are now at our fingertips. folks will lack. However, One particular sub-population of these rural counties that to date we've known little the joy of gleaning from a about (at least since the 2000 Census) is working women. There are both similarities and good book a story we can notable differences when relating the economies of rural counties to the statewide aver- vicariously become image, so it's worthwhile to investigate the comparisons for the female labor force. mersed in, is one good thing According to the five-year ACS estimates, the labor force participation rate for 16 to 65 about being human. year old women in Utah is just under 69 percent. Of the 19 small Utah counties observed I found on net, often from here, only two have a higher rate of women working: Wayne and Garfield. a radio show interview, San Juan exhibits the lowest rate at just under 53 percent. The average labor force par- good synopsizes of books ticipation rate for this collection of counties is 60.5 percent. written by some of the Earnings tell an interesting story as well. Of the full-time wage earners, only in four of smartest people on the planthe 19 counties do women have a higher female-to-male earnings ratio than the statewide et--at least if the number average. Women in Utah earn approximately 70 percent of their male counterpart's earn- of letters after their names ings level; only the working women in Beaver, Grand, Wayne, and Kane counties fare indicating having studied better. at prestigious universities Uintah County's working women fare the worst of this group with less than 50 cents means anything. I credit to the male dollar, while Kane county women come out on top with an earnings ratio just my painting and my dog under 90 percent. for having encouraged my The most common occupations held by the working women in Utah are: office and listening to these summaadministrative support occupations (26.4 percent), sales and related occupations (12.6 ries. My painting because I percent), and education, training, and library occupations (9.8 percent). Does this pattern can listen while I paint, my hold true for the women of smaller counties? The answer turns out to be yes. dog because I can listen on While there are certainly differences in the economic make-up of the rural areas of an ipod as I walk with him. Utah as compared to the Wasatch Front, the data shows that women tend to gravitate to- Today, for instance, I heard ward these types of occupations. In fact, for all but two counties (Piute and Rich), office Dr. David Pertmutter talk and administrative support occupations exhibited significantly higher percentages of the about his new book POWtotal female employment. ER UP YOU BRAIN that Find out more about the demographic and economic made good sense. In the incharacteristics of women in Utah's rural counties at the following link: http:// factfinder. terview a caller called askcensus.gov. • Church Social Chopsticks ing about the danger from these drugs used for depression on the brain. The answer helped me have some peace about the fact that some people I know take these drugs for depression. This natural approach doctor admitted that he hated to say it, but these drugs, like Prolax, have something in them that actually helps the brain regenerate. His advice is to use all that modern medicine has to offer, that they are moving ahead and discovering more and more about our human body and that more and more they are realizing life style and nutrition really are much more important for a long, healthy life than they once thought. With many things we do, I suppose the final line hasn't been reached, as far as just what is the best foods, the best habits. But progress is being made. I heard that soon they will have a DNA profile inexpensively administered that will tell doctors just how to personalize treatment. Apparently, we are really all quite different. One drug or treatment idea that will seem a miracle for one person, will not work or even be harmful for another. Think of the savings in suffering, let alone health costs, when they really get a handle on this! It makes sense to keep learning as new discoveries come along. Send suggestions to Veda Hale Box 956 Panguitch, Utah 84759 or email vedahale@hotmail.com RR Working Women in Small Utah Counties Lynn Maguire PT rob.. 676 E. Center Street ranguitch, UT 8+759 250 T :1-35 616-8123 r: +35 676 8133 balance , Dizziness Licensed & Insured Professional, Clean & Reliable 25 Years Experience Now Serving Garfield County 435-679-8842 Panguitch Churches Valley Christian Fellowship, Baptist 585 E 50 North 676 - 2157 Sunday service 11:00 AM St Gertrude Roman Catholic Church So Main St (this is a mission church) 676-8404 Art, general information 586-8298 Christ the King Church Sunday mass 1:30 PM LDS, 1st Ward 500 So 100 West 676-2168 John Gillett Sunday service 11:00 AM Sunday School 12:10 AM Priesthood/Relief Society 1:00 PM Youth-Tuesday 7:00 PM LDS, 2nd Ward 190 No 400 East 616-2240 Danny Yardley Sunday service 10:00 AM Sunday School 11:10 AM Priesthood/Relief Society 12:00 PM Youth-Tuesday 7:00 PM LDS, 3rd Ward 500 So 100 West 690-1145 Rob Veator Sunday service 9:00 AM Sunday School 10:10 AM Priesthood/Relief Society 11:00 PM Youth-Tuesday 7:00 PM |