Show FOB F OR THE LADIES OUE ITEMS I 1 oil AM AND UN MAnil lED spen spenders Hp endore derm or favo rs u ear nulu oa 01 ess girls anti nd spenders 0 or barer wo sea statements tato monts to tho the effect that wives instead of being holp moot moots a ore only help spend spends ablio hilo this may bo be truo true of some city women who live for fashion and not tor for their families it certainly ie Is not truo true of those truo true mothers who thank god are tho the groat majority and without whom III alfo 0 would bo be a desert but buts in addition to the housewifely italy spirit which makes every truo true woman a caretaker an interview in one of tha tho largo chicago dallies dailies filus iterates another phase of douan nature juet just as praiseworthy and noble aud and showing that eho she ie Is by no moans means behind man in places where ho she comes into direct competition with him A certain banker says a my brings me to tho the conclusion that women who aro are thrown upon their own exertions manago manage bettor than men mon and will savo a little out of a email small income where it man would give up tako take to drink 00 0 0 commit suicide A man think thinks it beneath his manhood to make a loss deposit than 5 A poor woman with two or three children to support port will wash aroa 1 cook and guiao tako take in from 6 q 10 n week for tho the earno same support hor her little buy her children ao an occasional toy or a little candy keep her bar house lolk looking tidy herself arc ont ablo pay her hor bont rent and mako make a deposit weekly of from fifty cents up to 1 1 I avo never P ca ouo buo of those palo faced tired out cooki lo oki ig women at tho the window that I 1 do not fool tool like going out and baying saying something to ago her 1 I dont havo have much timo time to road read but I 1 do not believe thoro there aro are anny such stories in print as I 1 could toll 5 ou if it proper to do women stand misfortune better than men that la Is my observation I 1 was in to ono one of tho the savings banks that went under years ago ngo I 1 aho ho poor women who were the losers wore were tho the heroines while somo of tho the men who lost rayed went mad took to drink and some committed suicide tho the poor women went on silent and sorrowful beginning life again penniless aha house id flown for girl in 11 A busy girl giri ono one who ie Is out in the tho workaday work a day world writing and wilting willing to keep tho the accounts of a it great firm straight wrote and asked me what I 1 should advise for n business dress first of all I 1 should say lot it be quiet lot ll 11 bo be well fitting and lot it bo be the kind that will attract attention only by its absolute neatness I 1 know tho the temptation amp tation is very great to put tho the money in i pretty plaid frock trimmed with velvet perhaps in a silk and to wear it for a little while for very best ind the thel to tako take it for the office this Is the tu 14 thing in tho the world you ought to do wo can loam learn somo some lessons from men ani and did you over ever hoar hear of a man taking takina a shabby dress suit stilt for office wear put your money in a frock suitable for business and keep it exclusively clu for that leavo the frills and frivols for tho the other hours and mako make your gown partake of tho the ex simplicity of that worn by a eross and it will never offend even when it grows a little shabby probably tho the most useful business gown is a dark blue sergo serge it does oot not show tho the stains or dust as quickly as black tho the sleeves alcoves will not rub out as would black cashmere and tho the material itself being rather rough grow glossy fashion tho the skirt after tho the manner of today to day plain at tho the front and sides and with a double box plaiting at the back then wear with this a fitted blouse of the samo same material belted in and not having baring tho the loose look usually given to a blouse I 1 recommend the blouse because while it is it ills Is not to the extent of the pasquo and sitting for henrs in a basque having bones extending to the edgo edge of its akert means gettine gottl ncr it shapeless in a very short time tima alayo a black ribbon stock at the neck and than neither collar or indeed a white enish of any kind is necessary in n buying our material get enough for a new pair of sleeves for your sleeves alcoves will certainly be shabby and worn out before your gown begins to go now just remember this a well dressed girl giri which moana means a girl suitably dressed for your position ii Is certain to havo more respect shown her than ono one who is untidy and over dressed there always comes a time when tho the bright colors tho the gay ribbons and the pretty laco lace can bo be worn but it is certainly not in tho counting room in the offices or chero or year work may bo be ruth ashmore Ash inore tit ts ladies lome honic journal at the coll coln of polite socie Soc tery whenever a kindly or considerate act is she n 3 iou ou my dear be always careful to say ay that index to rood good bro brooding odina thank you certainly you say it to tho the ma man friend who baa has given you yon nn an evening of amusement at tho the or tho the concert or who hue has taken you to and fetches zou ou from a friends homo home to whom oleo also should YO you U eoy bay it ftp to tho the mald tenant who hands 0 ou o U your lotion letters who make makes a special point of ko keeping citing your room in good and who that you liked thing things placed in a certain dav wan was careful always to do it to tho the stranger who holds open a door for you uj tho the elevator mau who a saves aves you climbing eo so many stairs to tho the man who give gives you sent in car or omnibus and to anybody in any a atu tu tion of life who shows you a cou courtesy reesy of any kind wo we are opt apt to bo be very stingy with our thanks to accept things entirely roly too much for granted and to believe bol lovo in having courtesies shown us that they aro arc only what wo we deserve do now this is to tho the wrong wiy of looking at 14 it and some day it wilt will orvo servo that girl right that girl who believes bol lovos that tho the good things of life in tho the way of noss aro are hore bore lawfully and that with out any effort on her part they can bo be retained will discover hor her mistake you can never bo be too generous with thank thoy they aro are tho the current coin of polito eo cloty tho the circulation of which tends to mako make everybody more eager to do unto others as they would bo be done by no girl makes a mistake who has hm A thank you always ready it is tho the index to a good grood character and a loving heart politeness is golden and thank you is tho the coin which passes everywhere and recognized by all ruru in ladled ladies home journal how 11 ow to talk well learn to listen well and very soon you will find yourself speaking spon king tho the word in season and surprising yourself as well wall as others by tho the quickness with which your thoughts will be well expressed head tho the words of great writer think them over and conclude conc ludo in what way you differ from them tho the wo we mau mat who talks well nimat havo have opinions decided ones but oho must ha a them well in hand as nothing is so disagreeable as an agg resal 0 talker soy say what you bal havo 0 to a siy aly ly pleasantly and sweetly remember ral always ways that tho the best thing in life dear sweet love has often boon bean won by that delightful thing a low voice 19 do not bo be too critical remember that every blow given another woman is a boomerang which will return and hit you with double force take this into consideration it Is never worth while making a malicious remark no matter how clever it may bo be worth what while worth my ray dear girl the while hero here which is after all so short and the while hereafter which is after all so long and sweet it seems to me that when you and I 1 before the good god it will bo be tho the little gossip tho the petty talk about others of which wo we will bo be most ashamed never forget that more idle talk Is quito quite as bad bid as gossip for nobody is gaining any good from it lt and as no vacuum exists in nature nono none can in everyday life not to bo be a good talker my dear girl not to bo be an ing woman quick in your sympathy and ready always a to gi give 0 tho the word of gladness to those in joy or speak your tender thought to ono one who is in affliction is to be that most unpleasant of people an unfeminine woman ladies H orne journal anal Ile between tween schoolroom an I 1 altar when the girl enters the world after her education is fani finished se 11 she does not always find it what sho she expected the schoolroom school room is one thine thing the world another be he may have boon popular with her teachers because she was a diligent scholar and carried off t tho he honors of tho the school but sho she finds that book knowledge does not make her popular or successful socially some of tho the most intellectual people I 1 have known havo have been among tho the most disagreeable A woman whose intellect Is aggressive who parades her knowledge before those of inferior intellect or education cation is an object to be dreaded drea dedo more mure learning in a woman is never attractive it is on the contrary of fen fenstrom unless coupled with fe feml nino graces school learning should sink into tho the character and deportment nod and only exhibit itself as a the perfume of a flower is exhibited in a namo name lebs and unobtrusive manner A wor womans nans knowledge of grammar should not mako make her talk like an orator in jall life it should simply mako make her bar conversation gracious and mathematics should clear and her judgments true her geographical studies should teach her thai that tho the world is too small for falso false ners to find a hiding place and history hould impress her that life is too sho shot t for unworthy ambitions ilia time between the schoolroom school room and tho the altar should bo be not a mere barhost liar vest timo time of pleasure 1 butusov but a ing timo for all the seeds of kindness and self sacrifice for others and an ol 01 unselfishness and which alono alone can mako lor it at successful tIll wife and mother ella wheeler 11 elcox la in ladies home journal ro ijadi |