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Show I Spouse abuse becoming familiar family problem area Spouse abuse is not a happy subject. But it is a subject that more and more separpersons married, to complain for fear the beatings and problems will get worse. Others say they stay for the children. Spouse abuse can occur anywhere. It occurs in rich neighborhoods or poor. There have been cases of small, quiet rural towns as well as in the heart of Salt Lake City. It can occur among young couples or old The abusive couples. behavior may always be apparent. Other times, it doesnt start until the abuser gets under stress - loses a job, drinks too much. But it doesnt have to continue if women and men get help early, he stressed. What is scary about spouse abuse is that it is often only the beginning of worse things. Some women think they can tolerate the abuse themselves - just as long as It doesn't happen to the children. "Unfortunately, in 72 per cent of spouse abuse cases, the abuser eventually abuses the children too. And those children cant fight back at all. Thats why the Department of Social Services is concerned that people get help before the problems become too severe - or the children are hurt. he said. ated, divorced, living together or dating are having to deal with because it occurs in their own a Utah relationships, Department of Social Services official said. Today its estimated that between 20 and 40 percent of between relationships school year for the 1978-7for North are (I. to r.) Wendy Daines, secretary, Andrea Thompson, vice president, and Barry Bambrough, EIGHTH GRADE OFFICERS 9 president. next year for North Davis Junior High include (I. to r.) James Foutz, president, Natalie Clements, vice president, and Holly Kirkbride, Theres An STUDENTBODY OFFICERS for secretary (top). Answer by Norman Vincent Peale and Ruth Stafford Peale v; Cant 0 .16 go on Q. I read in your column about the girl who lost her mother and cant get over the grief Well, Im about the same way, only over a husband w'hom I loved very dearly for 29 years. For 14 years he was in a wheel chair or in bed, and I gave him my life. I lost him 19 months ago. My last two daughters got married. Ive had two cancer surgeries and I feel like I cant go on. Im just about to the end of everything. Please help me. A. Your feelings are understandable, and for them we have sympathy. You built your life around your invalid husband and, naturally, when you lost him your life became empty. The two surgical experiences compounded your problem. The solution for you is to revamp your thinking so that you will not dwell on what you dont have, but what you do have; not on what you have lost, but what you possess. Sit down with a piece of paper and make a list of everything for which you can be thankful. Do that daily and soon you will find that you can add to the list. Then you will begin to move out of mental darkness into the light. We have a booklet, HEALING FOR LOVED ONES AND FOR YOU, which has helped others and a copy of it is on its way to you. Anyone wishing a free copy may write to us in care of Box 500, Pawling, NY 12564 ' NINTH GRADE OFFICERS for next year at North are (I. to r.) Diane Keller, secretary, Kristine Hamblin, vice president and Lane Riggs, president (top.) DRAPERY CLEANING TAKE DOWN AND REHANG SERVICE Process the Perfect Pleat Way. LYNNS DRY CLEANING 19S9 W. S700 S., Roy 825-431- 1 MlM Loving, man, uncaring husband Q My husband is a good man. His only weakness is he puts himself above me and our three children. Everything in our life is the way he wants it to be. He waits until cut-of- f day to pay the rent or utilities. We dont buy groceries by the week or month. We do it daily. He wont give me the money to go to the store. If I want something all I have to do is ask. He gets it. He can be a very loving man, but at times he seems to be very unloving and uncaring. I am comDletelv confused hv him and dont know what to do. Please help me. A. We would suggest that you sit down with your husband and try to show him that you are an efficient home executive, a business woman operating a home, and that you should have a household budget. Explain that you will make proper financial reports to him but you are not happy running to him like a child every time you want to spend a dime. Perhaps he will see the reasonableness of your position. He should, and will if he has any business sense. Am I being punished? Q. I divorced my first husband for adultery. Nine years later I married another man and divorced him for the same reason. During the nine years between the marriages I had sex with two single men, but I realized my mistake and it never happened again. Am I being punished for making the mistake, and if I married again would I be living in adultery? A. We are not punished for our sins but by them. It is possible that your two husbands practiced adultery because their relationship with you was unsatisfactory. If you marry again you would be well advised to have an analysis made of your personality. Today counseling resources are available that might help you to understand yourself so that the previous failures might not be repeated Did you know . . . mT 0FT1CM QUALITY EYEWARE & couples involve some form of abuse, Dr. Maurice Wells, Division of Specialist, Family Services, said. The abuse can be physical broken bones, slapping around when drunk or angry. The abuse can be sexual where a partner demands and takes sexual advantage of the other person against his or her will. The abuse can also be emotional such as constant beratings in front of friends or children, shouting mat- ches and name calling, obscene language or even he said. What is unfortunate is that many people, particularly women who have children or no job training, to make it on their own put up with the abuse, he explained. Some think its just part of marriage or a relationship Others put up with it because they are afraid to be by themselves. Some are afraid School Home by Dr. Daryl J. McCarty Executive Secretary Utah Education Association 825-166- D lor ( 1.... 1. PLAYBOY OGDEN 950 25th St. Suite N-- 1 6 9 AM 'TIL NOON LAYTON 2179 N. 1700 W. West of Davis No. Hospital may also be available. The problems, however, is MAY 9. 1978 A followup was made concerning a smoke bomb complaint at Clearfield High. A 17 year old girl was picked up and taken to Moweda e complaint from the Porfollowing a Police tsmouth, Virginia Department. A reckless burning complaint was investigated at the parking lot of the Clearfield 10th Ward. A 6 year old boy was questioned and released to his mother. 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SEND FOR YOUR FREE BROCHURE! terrl brogan 1978 me GLASS INSTALLATION STAHLE 563 ISHMAiuM AftO SAitS BUS. Residential STORM DOORS WIND0WS CO 0WC J. COREY 4 office. Ricardo Felipe Baca, 24, 42 E. 350 S., was booked into the Davis County Sheriffs Office following a public intoxication charge near JB's. 393-843- 9 825-162- set mechanisms in place to deal with problems. Persons with spouse abuser problems or those interested in the task forces should call their local Division of Family Service ?i MAY 11, RAISING EARTHWORMS Professional SATURDAY and divorces separations and concerns gripe? IF 9 AM TO 5:30 PM also help women and if their mates want help, they can help them too. In severe cases, legal help to facilitate are not battered there women centers such as the one at the YWCA, will be formed to assess local 14-1- 5 PROFIT have a visual or hearing problem call Knighton Optical for doctor's referral. Y counselors and mental health center counselors can occurs letter the editor HEARING AIDS We have complete hearing aid services, including repairs, sales and service of 10 major brands. We feature a 30 day free trial, and also have rental aids available. We have an emergency service on hearing aid repairs. OPEN woman can recover from the abuse and get back on her feet. Division of Family Service Because abuse everywhere, Wells said task forces in rural areas, where Lets say theres a sixth grade student who is jointing' MAY ii,li97 that the teacher is convinced hell be portraits so life-lik- e another Norman Rockwell. William Dungee appeared before Judge Jensen and plead Chances are the youngster is a gifted artist. So the school places that student with a mentor. A guilty to an assault charge in which another man was struck with a pool cue. He was fined $40 and sentenced to 20 days, mentor? with the time being suspended upon payment of the fine. If you remember Homers writings, you may recall that A suspicious person report is being investigated after a when Odysseus left his happy home to do battle in the Trojan man allegedly was offering a ride and candy to children War, he left his sons education to a friend named Mentor. Thats where the term came from. The artistic sixth coming home from school. An accident at 800 E. 200 S. involved Louie Trujillo, 378 grader, then, would be introduced to an interested, acwho would help the youngster with his Morgan, Layton, and Severiano Gutierrez, 650 22nd, Ogden. complished painter Pearl L. Tirado, 50, 156 Ross Dr., was booked into the Davis technique. But art is only one field. Mentors are being found for Utah County Sheriffs Office following an arrest for driving under the influence. students with burning interests in such fields as law, Also booked into the Davis County Sheriffs Office on a medicine, architecture, music, math and many other purdriving under the influence charge was Duane G. Parker, 26, suits. 1861 Grant, Ogden. The use of mentors is a part - and only a part - of some Phillip Powell, 47, 21 Aircraft, Layton, was arrested and activities sprouting in Utah schools because of an apbooked into the Davis County Sheriffs Office for public into the made fund by propriation Legislature programs for toxication. gifted and talented students. $75 worth of stereo equipment has been recovered while Each district receives funds and decides how to use them. For instance, a junior high school in Weber School police were investigating another incident. Three boys, years old, were issued citations for illegal District is finding students talented in science. They do individual research and experimentation on rather Dossession of tobacco. Gerald Robinson, visiting here from California, reported sophisticated projects - ones that have baffled some of the worth of miscellaneous items were taken from his $165 in minds the world. brightest vehicle while parked at the home of a friend. A ninth grader in the program developed for plans A citation was issued to a boy for possession of storing radioactive wastes. tobacco. Another student developed a model oil refinery that can Information was received that a man was carrying a rifle be powered by sunlight. At present, refineries use a costly and threatening to shoot someone following a family fight. fuel for that purpose - oil. The investigation is continuing. A report from the State Board of Education states that The Clearfield Job Corps reported a possible burglary at the program for gifted and talented students tends to the snack bar however officers were unable to fight sufficient upgrade education generally, and added: facts to substantiate the complaint. It has created considerable community interest in Mike Nilsen, 190 W. 300 N., reported losing a skateboard at education and many people are becoming involved in mentor the " park. Value estimated at $24. programs Officers assisted the Sheriffs Department in an autoThe program for gifted and talented students has taken a pedestrian accident. First aid was administered to an long time to get here, but its a solid, necessary part of our boy that had fallen from the back of a pickup. schools. William Beck, 193 W. 1300 N., Sunset was arrested for driving under the influence following an accident with another vehicle. An assault case at the Job Corps is being investigated. 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