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Show Page A4 Thursday, July 26, 1 990 - Park Record Nadalee Noble journals Continued from A3 for them to get out we watched a calf borned. I'm so thankful Bev will drive the kids to church, other wise they would not be able to go..." Monday Oct. 24, 1977 The girls were home from school. I cleaned up in the big house and made ghost outfits out of old sheets for the girls they realy thought it was fun. Amy made a wooden house for the duck. We still have the lame duck in the house. Amy made a thank you card for Don. She was happy. I was real depressed depress-ed Sunday and Monday... I don't know why. I tryed not to show it. We went to bed at 8:30 last night because Don and I had nothing to say and we just wanted to end the day. I feel better this afternoon. I took a bath and got ready for my English class. It turned out good but Don didn't act pleased..." Saturday Dec. 21, 1977 ...We went to dinner at the P....U was realy nice. The Curtis's, Greens, Smioths and us. Not one person even said drink out of respect to Arden who is an alcoholic..." . t , o - i m ts..- i 7r' Nadalee at her sister's wedding, 1975 Friday Aug.25, 1978 ..."The kids started school today yesterday they were real excited and had a good time. Don won't give Amy the $5.00 for her registration. registra-tion. That was alittle hard for her, but if he won't give her the money on Mon. I'll go over to the school and tell them to lay off Amy and I'll get the money to them as soon as I can... Don is in a rage because Amy wanted to take band adn I told her she could. Don days we can't afford it, but so far I haven't found anything the school dosn't pay for. Amy knows I can't give her extra money and she can't go on over night trips but she loves music and I think it will be good for her to belong to something. We (Amy and I) thought that if she was in the band she could go to the ball games with the band. Now I don't know. Don will fight everything and make life as hard as he can. We'll just need to see how things work out... I can tell I'm changing. It started early last spring, spr-ing, I think, when I planted the garden, alone and started to pump water and do lots of things myself. Before I waited for Don to help and then was always mad because he wouldn't do it. I just stopped wasting so much time waiting for him and was surprised to find I realy could do things for myself..." Friday Dec. 8, 1978 ..."We have had endless snow and cold sense the 1st of Nov. We have burned all our wood and Don bought a ton of coal that is but gone now. the temp was -20F this morning. morn-ing. Three of the smallest chickens frose last night. I was sorry about the chickens but I am glad they are out of the cold... I have been smiling all morning at this funny mess we are in. We never did get a heater and we need to get out of bed many times night to the fire going inthe fireplace and the cookstove. I get up to cover Jason and sometime fix the fires but Don gets up with the fire most of the time. I couldn't help laughing when I pored the water from the water jug this morning mor-ning and found myself surprised to find that where the water driped down the jug had frozen before it hit the floor. Making an ice trail clear down the jug. then to my amazement I noticed the water I y had spiled On the rug had also frozen even before I had finished filling the teapot. Needless to say, my first thought was to make the kids put on their shose as fast as I could..." Next week selections from Nadalee's journals up from 1979 to 1990 her last entry written from the Salt Lake Women's Shelter three days before she was murdered. Where to get help Emergency calls 911 Park City Police Department 648- 9369 Summit County Sheriff's Office 336-4461 YWCA Women's Shelter 355-2804 Salt Lake Mental Health 566-2455 (Collect calls will be taken 24 hours a M eta Park City Counseling Institute 649- 2426. 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Choice Pib Steak Char Broiled with Salad, Baked Potato or Pasta, and Onion Rings Stake your claim for ONLY State Liquor licensee Sorry no discounts or coupons with these specials Reservations Accepted Tn rVospsctor Square 1895 Sidewinder Victims can find help through Social Services The February shooting of Nadalee Noble by her estranged husband following more than two decades of alleged abuse has drawn attention to the social services available in Summit Sum-mit County. County Division of Social Services administrator Marsha Wellever says the system did not fail Nadalee what happened to her is very rare. "Most often abuse takes a pattern," pat-tern," said Wellever. "It takes a woman an average of seven times of being abused before they get out. There are women who stay longer, 14,20 times and the pattern becomes harder to break. The man will come home with flowers and candy and full of i love you's' and 'I'm sorry,' and then it starts all over again. She wants to think maybe he'll change, she thinks, he loves me. And God knows we love our spouses with all their faults and oftentimes we stick by them long past any healthy point. "If a spouse has learned they can manipulate you through their behavior and they can beat you down, and many women are not in a position to be independent and self-sufficient, self-sufficient, they stay in abusive relationships." rela-tionships." In the case of Nadalee Noble she had Just spent a week in the women's shelter of YWCA and was in the process pro-cess of relocating herself and her three minor children. Her husband had allegedly repeatedly threatened to kill her and on the day she was shot he had been served with both a restraining order and divorce papers. He had learned over the years he could manipulate her," said Wellever. "And that afternoon in front of Albertsons he grabbed her arm and told her to come with him. She just finally said no." Wellever says the restraining order was meant to keep Nadalee's husband away from her, "but he chose not to follow the law. I don't know what else the system could have done." Wellever believes strongly that adult abuse patterns parallel behaviors learned in childhood. "When someone learns they can continue to get their own way through negative means they repeat the behavior. If you let a child in a supermarket get away with throw- "The average stay there is for a month but many women stay for 60 days." , . tantrum. It is straight behavior modification. You have to break the pattern." Taking the first step and making the first call is always difficult, admits ad-mits Wellever, but she says the services ser-vices available in Summit county are "excellent." "First off, if you are being abused call the police. Or if you just want to talk to a counselor you can call 911 anytime, day or night, and they will put you in touch with emergency social workers. Money is not a factor in getting help in this county. Unlike other counties where there are long lists of people trying to get help, no one who wants help here is going without, and the fees are charged on a sliding scale so those without any income and those with generous incomes in-comes can all receive help." The very best program for abused women, says Wellever, is the YWCA women's shelter in Salt Lake City. "There are other women there, group therapy is offered, they can take the children with them, day care is provided, there are rooms and there is food. It is a safe place. Over 75 percent of the women do go home again and often that is appropriate. ap-propriate. Sometimes both partners just need a cooling off period. The average stay there is a month but many women stay for 60 days." Wellever says abuse is not limited to women and the YWCA offers the same services for men. It's just tougher for men to seek help," said Wellever. "You don't hear about men being abused as much, but a surprising number of men are abused." Wellever stressed how very rare a shooting is, but admits her office has received a large number of phone calls since the murder from women saying "my old man has threatened to kill me, I can't leave now." While any situation of domestic violence can result in something as dramatic as last week's shooting, she says she hopes women who are working at getting out of abusive situations will continue with their plans. "No one should have to live in fear," says Wellever. Charities benefit The number of Utahns contributing con-tributing to charitable causes on their 1989 returns increased over those donating in 1988, the State Tax Commission said today. However, while the number and average amount of donations to the Homeless Fund grew significantly, Utahns contributed, on average, less to the Utah Non-game Wildlife Fund. The Tax Commission says 39,575 Utah returns nearly 6.6 percent of those files contributed $289,842 to the Homeless Fund, with an average donation of $7.32. Those numbers are up from 1988, when 38,430 returns contributed $264,201, with an ing a temper tantrum to get candy average contribution of $6.87. then each lime you go backto the'4 The number of contributors to the market you can count on another. Utah Non-game Wildlife fund grew . from 26,992 in 1988 to 31,476. But the average contribution dropped from 1988's $5.21 to $4.21 in 1989, for a total collection of $132,564. In 1988, $140,840 was contributed to Utah's critters. Utahns also contributed to the state's political parties. These checkoffs, unlike the wildlife and homeless contributions, so not come directly from the taxpayer's personal per-sonal funds but rather are allocated from the state tax revenues. 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