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Show t T THE FORUM Jan. 19, 2005 Sugar House Shops Have Sweet Finds Stan Sarkisov For What It's Worth Ms. & Mr. Staff Writer Fs Real Advice For Real Problems Although afraid to ruin his reputation, Jason DAvignon wears his Diesel brand jeans proudly. He is even more proud for not hav- Dear Ms. and Mr. F, There is a guy I recently met who asked me out. I am not attracted to him and I do not have any interest in dating him. How can I tactfully let him know I have no interest in dating him without hurting his ing paid full retail price but only $20 at Pibs Xchange, a locally owned Sugar House business. feelings? At Pibs you find cool stuff that no one else is going to be wearing, said DAvingon. Pibs Xchange, a more used store, as sales high-en- d clerks Alana Smith described it has been around for ten years and continues to provide awesome brands to college students shopping on a budget. The atmosphere and the interior of Pibs has quickly set it apart from other second-hand stores as this one clearly focuses on a college-age- d Pibs Xchange in Sugar House attracts college-age- d looking for inexpensive and unique clothing. recommendations and sell their own personal CDs out of the stereo when she could not find it on the shelf. She recalled a time when she was in the store and heard a band playing and the clerk sold his own personal copy. ee at Pibs, believed that her store is one of the staples of Sugar House that offered a sense of community and served as an oasis among corporate chains like Old Navy and Barnes and Nobles. demographic I bought a bitchin Iron Maiden shirt there that you cant find anywhere else, DAvingon stated, explaining that hunting for the perfect piece of clothing is worth the time and the disappointments of finding a shirt that cannot be found in a different size. Pibs will also buy used clothes from its customers, offering 30 percent of the value in cash up front or 55 Another example of locaUy owned businesses in the Sugar House area is Orions Music, which was previously located on 9th and 9th. This store specializes in blue-gra- ss indie-roc- On top of the service and selection, Tyler Bain likes the Its idea of a local store. always important to have small businesses to show that a community can support itself? said Bain, who shops at Orions whenever he has extra money. reggae, k, and other margin-ilze- d genres while ignoring the mainstream releases. Along with providing what employee Dustin Yearby described as killer tunes, the staff at Orions offers knowledgeable advice and store-cred- it percent DAvignon offered a quick money-earnin- g plan by sugcan find customers gesting clothes to match the style of Pibs at other second-han- d stores like Thrift Town or Deseret Industries and them back to Pibs for a profit He did however acknowledge that it would be pretty hard to find a Lacoste sweater on the D.I racks. Smith, the newest employ- - Corporate stores only sell what turns a huge profit and ignore what deserves to be heard, said Bain in reference to the local artists on sale in Orions. Local artists who play next door at Sugarbeats usually contact Orions and get their music on the shelves. While independent stores may be going out of business elsewhere, they continue to thrive in Sugar House and continue to bring young people into the area .csj excellent service. Brianna Lange, who describes the store as something kind of like the one in High Fidelity, found her Rilo Kiley CD there after she checked other music stores in the area. Lange also likes the re-se- U students friendly and knowledgeable staff who are willing to make Gossip as Obession Ryan Lee Rieger Staff Writer Brad and Jen, Britney and Justin, Tom and Nicole, Bennifer, Lindsey and Wilmer, Ashton and Demi, Nick and Jessica, Gwyneth and Chris, we know Beyonce and Jay-- Z them all by name, we foHow them by heart, and we damn them by mind. Then, after that, we obsess over their ruin. Ask any savvy teenager they could probably recite for you a celebrity couples marriage vows and then quote to you the couples annulment date. If there were a class called Celebrity Breakups 101, I bet more people would be keeping their scholarships. As a culture, we inexpH-cabl- y research a celebritys meandering love life more than the subject for that paper we have due the next whats-his-facday in ol class. If you visit online search engines such as Google.com and Yahoo.com, the most popular searches Uter-atuare not beat generation or developmental neuroscience, they are things like Paris Hilton and es re Britney Spears. This obsession is only prolonged by the media. Now', I hate people who blame only the media for the downfaU of man, so I am not going to do that, but I think some credit should be given where it is due. Because magazines like Star and Teen People owe the continued pubUcation of their magazines to celebrity drama, they continue to print these types of stories, and in turn, feed the vicious cycle. Ask yourself how you reacted when you found out that Brad and Jen decided to separate, or when Bennifer decided to return to being just Ben Affleck and J.Lo. EspeciaUy in the case of Britney and Justin, teens everywhere melted down, as if the two celebrities were their own parents or sibHngs! This takes the fascination See Gossip pg. 8 Dear Tactful, The best way to deal with this situation is to be honest. Being honest may not be the easiest way out but it is definitely the most dignified. Honesty should always be looked at as a positive even in sticky situations. Now the wray in which you approach being honest may be difficult. How can you be honest without hurting a persons feelings? There is no straight or direct answer for this. No matter how tactful you may be, you still could hurt his feelings. The rejection alone can do that. Trying to be as sincere as possible may help to lighten the blow. HopefuUy the guy will have enough respect for you, because you were honest, and he wiU be accepting of your decision. He may not like the decision but he wiU be more receptive because he knows he was not lied to. Honesty is not always the easiest approach for many people. I assume it is because one may feel that if they lie or if they are not completely honest it will help to lighten the rejection blow. Perhaps in some cases it may at first. Lets say you did teU the guy that you are dating someone else, or that you are not interested right now and you are focusing on other things. Then a few months down the road you run into him again or he caHs you. Will you continue to use the same excuses? Eventually, the person will figure out what you are doing. More than likely they wiH be even more offended and hurt than they would have if you were honest to begin with. Good luck! Where is there dignity unless there is honesty? -- Cicero (106 BC- - 43 BQ -- Ms. F Mr. F, bringing a male's perspective: Dear Tactful, Unfortunately the bottom line here is that you cant. No matter how delicately you put it, you are rejecting him and that will hurt his feelings. Since he probably doesnt look like Brad Pitt, it might have taken a lot of in order to ask you out in the first place. Fortunately guys handle rejection a little differently than women. Their egos are very fragile but their attention span is reaUy short Im sure heU be crushed and itll be the end of the world until the next episode of The Simpsons comes on. You can soften the blow a bit by being honest and straightforward. HeH appreciate your honesty and wont keep trying like he would if he got mixed signals. 'Whatever self-coachi- ng you do, please strike the foUowing phrases from your vocabulary: Its not you, its me. I think of you as a brother. Im concentrating on my schoolwork. Im not attracted to you in that way. My life is too compHcated response: right now. And the number one I just want to be friends. FinaUy, Id say why not go out once with the guy? Its a free meal and or movie and you might find something in common. Who knows, maybe he enjoys French poetry or bottle cap coUecting as much as you do. soul-crushi- ng Mr. F questions about friendships or dating dilemmas? Each week in The Forum, Ms. and Mr. F provide students with real answers to real problems. Ms. and Mr. F with your questions, comments or dillem-ma- s to: advicewestminstercollege.edu, or write to The Forum, Converse 201 . All correspondence with Ms. and Mr. F is anonymous and confidential. Do you have problems in your life, E-m- ail |